another rat

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Jun 17, 2009 at 02:51

Hi suspicious

i am sure you must be feeling terrible at the moment and this feeling is so hard to experience because we are genuine but they play their game be it fun or whatever. He clearly is after a quick marriage which is not a good sign and all the women on his e.mails shows he is just another rat. Yes I would e.mail her and mention your experience with him, let her know what he is up to, you probably will be saving her heartache too by telling her! If he cared enough for you he would wait for you to be together not ask you to marry then say he can't and just be friends. They want the best of both worlds, you there to visit him whilst others visit him too. Also he would never sleep with you without marriage if he loved and respected you,

plz try to cut him off from your life, it will be very hard and you will be hurt so badly but not as hurt as you will be later if you carry on with him. He will try his hardest to keep you in his life, but not for love, they have other reasons and mostlt it is to get you to marry them or they need a supply of money at some stage, maybe just for fun but as you already know you won't be the only one.

I am still hurting and still think about my man every day, he is in my head but I will never go back knowing there is others on his list, yes I cry, have good and bad days but I know I will survive all this. Stop all contact now don't let him destroy you with meaningless words, they sound so good but mean nothing, others are hearing it all too. Hold your head up and walk away he knows what a rat he is!

If you want to talk I am here for you x

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