Bearshare, Egyptian Man, love, marriage, Phillipines, online

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 18, 2009 at 20:25

Hi Amber:

Bearshare is a peer to peer network. The link should sufficently explain.

First of all, I noticed your response. As a guy, I can see what is happening and let me explain.

There are several warning signs here that should have you running from this man as far away as possible.

1) Quick marriage---There is no way in hell this man loves you, Amber Rose. As I said earlier, quick marriages are done in the honeymoon phase so that you don't even have time to process what is going on. You are being manipulated. You don't even know if your phermones will like each other.

2) Did you notice your hesitation to tell him that you love him back??? He had to entice you to do that. Real love does not require that.

3) You say you know he is geninue. The real deal. How? Because he looks good? Psh, every scammer does. That's why for years now they go around stealing other people's pictures from myspace to professional model websites.

4) Meeting him off Yahoo. Been there, done that ,Amber. Messanger is one of the worst places you can ever meet someone.

5) "Oh, but he seems geninue". Read the other posts on here, Amber. We get that all the time. Women clinging to the hope that their man is somehow different....he must be, he looks so heavenly.

He's not. And a relationship about looks is doomed from the start.

The tactics:

1) He waited two weeks to call you---that's textbook dating right there for luring a woman

2) He's acting all heartfelt and sincere. ALL relationships start out good, Amber Rose. Do you really thikn that the women on this site would have gone out with an Egyptian man who was shady and snobby? Of course not!!! It's the same thing as when you go out and buy something....would you buy something from someone who was rude to you or someone that you were afraid of?? NO!

3) The double standard: What would you do if one of your Filipino suitors called you and told you they loved you and proposed???? Would you melt like you did with this man?

4) You're going to have to snap out of it. "All I know is I am happy." Unfortunately, Amber, that is precisely what he is banking on.

What you need to do

1) Block him on your phone and on the internet

2) Stay away from your computer and the internet as much as possible.

3) Go out with your friends, see your family, maybe even hang out with some other guys. Try this and see what happens.

Amber, I understand how you feel about this man, but what are telling me is just to familar. I've been doing this for nine years now and you are diving into a trap. You really need to ask yourself if you want to come back here on six months, broken and sad, to share your tale of woe. It's happened before.

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