I am having second thoughts

Submitted by Juana (United States), Jun 19, 2009 at 19:22

hello to all. I just found this blog today. I am reading it with much interest. I too am beginning to fall for an Egyptian man from Cairo. He also has a place in NYC. He is returning to the states next week. He plans to come to my city to meet me shortly thereafter.

Since we are both older, in our 40's we would not have children together. He has none and says he is sterile. My children are nearly grown and yet he has agreed to accept them as his own. He is not pushy about anything. Just that he loves me. this is fairly new, just a month old. I have questioned the treatment of wives, and that they are allowed to have 4. He answers everything. He even wants me to work with him in his company so we can be together more. He wishes me to travel with him for business and pleasure.

Each time I seem to question his motives, he assures me his heart is true. He will prove it to me one day. Just today he called me his Queen, and even said he was a slave to my love...so you can imagine how I felt when reading the same words from others here.
He said his Mum allows them to make their own choices of wife and friends. She does want him to remarry, as his wife died from cancer 8 months ago. He went to visit his Mum and he spoke to her about me and showed her my picture. He wants to take me and my daughters to Egypt to visit, and well as visit him in NYC.

I get the feeling it is all an illusion. Too good to be true. Especially after reading the posts here. So I am wondering if anyone here has any comments, or advice. besides run as fast as I can....could it be there is one decent Egyptian man out there?
I am not yet commited to this relationship and still feel I have an easy out clause. He has even offered to relocate to my city, so that the one daughter I have in school will be able to finish school here as she only has 2 yrs left. I want to believe him, but the whole "unequally yoked" Bible verse keeps popping into my head.

I want to thank each and every one of you for the posts here which shed a new light on this exotic and intoxicating allure of these tall dark and handsome men. I also appreciate any and all comments. I do not know if I should even accept his offer to take us "his new family" to Egypt to show us all the wonders of his home country... I already feel drunk on his impending love and affection...please help me!

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