Isis or anyone---please reply

Submitted by Angela (United States), Jun 20, 2009 at 14:50

Isis, I am from USA. There is this Egyptian guy that I met on myspace in Aug 2007. There is a big age difference between us. I am now in love with this guy. His name is Ayman. He says that he loves me. I think that he is using me and not in love with me like I deserve. I visited him in Egypt in June 2008. I paid for his own hotel room and my own. He told me that the only way for us to visit each other was to have our own room.

I think that after he visited me in my room, he left the hotel with his male friend every night that i was there. I feel that me and my daughter was abandoned by him after the visit. I feel that he was not available to me if needed. He did not come to Sharm with us like he once said he would. He told me that his family did not know that I was there. He told me that unmarried couple can not be registered in same room in Egypt. Is that true? In the beginning, I was on his friend list on hi5. I have sent friend request on hi5 and facebook. He has not accepted my friendship. He is accepting other females and not me. I think that he has something to hide.

There are so many times that I call him but he does not answer my phone calls on his cell. We do not even chat anymore like we used to. He says that he is too busy. I feel that if he truly loved me like I love him, he would talk to me more than he does. After I returned from Egypt, communication stopped and I went on with my life. His birthday is on March 24. I emailed him a happy birthday email as a friend, not a lover. About 2 weeks later, he sent me a long email. Telling me that he lives in pain because he still thinks about me, telling me that he tried to forget me and meet other women--but could not find one as good as me. So he says. I called him and he answered his phone. We talked for 1 hour. He never calls me or text messages me!!!!

Before that email, I was not shedding any tears!!!! Now i am back again to shedding tears and a broken heart in million pieces. I went to see an immigration attorney. All we have left to do in paperwork, is give his birth certificate in arabic and english, the G325A form signed by him, and 2 passport photos of him to send to immigration for approval or denial of his fiance visa. I noticed that when i send email to him titled visa/application, he is quick to reply. He does not reply that fast to other emails.

The recent text messages and emails i sent to him---i am requesting answers to his faithfulness to me, why is he still accepting females as friends and not me, why is he still communicating with other females when it is me he supposed to love and plan to marry in the future if his visa is approved. Maybe I made him angry. I don't know. He will not tell me anything. I have even told him that I would go to Egypt to marry him if his visa was denied!!!! He never replyed to the messages or emails!!!! I wish he would tell me that he is not in love with me like I am in love with him!!! It would be so much easier for me to let go.

I thought that GOD/ALLAH has brought Ayman and I back together because GOD felt that Ayman was the man for me!!! I have asked GOD/ALLAH to lead me in my life where a man is concerned!!!! I am beginning to think that Ayman was brought back to me to learn that he may be using me as his ticket to USA. I am soooo confused!!!!

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