Being used?

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Jun 22, 2009 at 01:29

Hi Angela

I have read your post with great sadness as I know by what you have said that this man IS using you.I was much older too and went through the same sort of thing, I met my man on holiday in Egypt and when I went back to see him 3 times where he was with me 24/7 . He spoke to me every day with sweet words of love......

when I was in England, there were many times too when he did not answer messages and he was ??busy! or he had no credit etc etc. This mans inconsistency tells me he is not genuine with what he is telling you, if he loved you like he said then he would pull out all the stops to spend as much time with you and surely accept you as a friend on Hi 5 ??, but to go and come back with this pathetic excuse of he has tried to find another woman but its you he loves!!!!! please!!! don't let him make a fool of you! just remember how quick he is to respond to you re-a visa!!

The reason you are here is because you are having serious doubts and you already know the answer, like me you are so in love with your man that you want to analyse his words and actions hoping that he does really love you, hoping someone will say yes give it a try he may be different, but he isn't!! please take a step back and think!!

If you feel like this now, what life if any would you have with him if you got married? No trust- lies-deceit- and without doubt he will use your age as an excuse to marry another younger woman and you will end up an emotional wreck and financially drained. Don't let his sweet words cloud your judgment, I was with my man 18 months but when he wasn't getting his visa quick enough and I wanted him to wait he changed and now has moved on to the next victim, you see if its true love they would be there for us not keeping you hanging around in case you do happen to take the bait and give them their dream only to disappear afterwards. You are not the only one, believe me, as much as I still feel for my man I am happy I made the difficult decision to tell him to *** off and although I miss his sweet words and sometimes wonder if ?? I know I have done the right thing and saved myself more heartache and money!

Read the posts on here, tell this man you are not stupid and to get the hell out of your life, if he is persistant then he is desperate! not in love with you. If I thought for one second you had a chance with this man I would wish you the best, but i'm sure I wont be the only one telling you to leave him.

Yes its true they cannot be alone with a woman unless married and no decent egyptian man would do this without marriage, and the orfi marriages are just licenses for sex in the tourist area's, they have no commitment whatsoever.

Get your life back without him, you deserve better x

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