To AmberRose on Egyptian Man--Affectionate words and "i love you"

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 22, 2009 at 16:28

Amber, what he is telling you is ridiculous. This is not real love, and I promise you he does not love you.

I talked to him last night and asked about this Orfi marriage. Thanks for bringing this up, by the way. He said that this kind of marriage is not good as per Egyptian standard and he won't marry me through Orfi, for sure. He will have our marriage officially registered, so I will not worry about my legal rights. He said: I will not keep our marriage secret Baby. All people will know. I want to keep you.

Baby this, baby that. I've heard that before from women too. It's a load of crap, Amber. Read the other stories on here. All the men do that.

Reading all the posts here makes me even more confused. I really don't know anymore. I love him so much but I am also scared of what lies ahead.

Well, Amber, that's to be expected. Your feminine logic and instincts are telling you what a bunch of hogwash this is

I could not think on a single motive on why he wants to marry me. I am Asian, not a Westerner. If it is about naughty stuff then why experience all the hassle of marrying me legally? Maybe he really loves me?

Well, how could you? You have such little information on him. Many women on here never ultimately find out what dark schemes their man is planning, because the warning signs are enough.

The fact that he is Egyptian and you are Asian is virtually irrelevant. I can see the logic where you might think this is not a visa scam, but he clearly does not have all these genuine, deep feelings for you, Amber.

The hassle of getting married---legal or illegal--- is done before you can figure out what is going, Amber.

What will I do? I can't afford to lose him. But I can't fully trust him either? I feel like hell.

You're right about the not being able to trust him part, that's a given. But you can't afford to lose him, Amber?

The reality is, Amber, you can. This man is basically controling you to large degree, and he's doing it by typing on a computer.

You are an accomplished young woman. Why give all that you are to some shady man from another country?

The reality is, Amber, this is nothiing new. Your story is bascially the same as so many others on here. He tells you he loves you, and you think you feel the same way because of how he looks and all those charms.

Really, Amber, I've had the exact same thing happen to me over and over again. My most recent experience involved a woman telling that she loved me before we met and then she called me cutie, baby and showered me with compliments. Then when we finally met, she didn't really want to have much to do with me, in fact, I think her parents made her hang out with me since I drove over 12 hours to come and see her. She was looking to collect guy friends that she could screw around with and it's very possible that is all this Egyptian man wants.

This sort of on-line behavior is quite common, really. He may want you for the sole fact that you are Asian so he can brag to all his friends at the bar and mosque about it. Men who screw around on-line often go through this infantile phases where they are hooked on one ethnicity a minute, and then it goes away and they get attached to another. I suppose this has something to do with never interacting with someone so exotic and the excitement of culture shock.

Quite a different series of emotions that real, matrimonial love, Amber Rose.

I've even had a Russian woman tell me she loved in the second e-mail. All she had from me was on on-line profile, a paragraph and an outdated photo.

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