PLEASE TELL HER!!!!!!! I am victim too by an Egyptian Rat! Let's help eachother....

Submitted by Innocence (France), Jun 22, 2009 at 18:59

I am so sorry to hear about your story Gambling & ....yes I am another victim of an "Egyptian rat" . Please tell her , warn her and who knows? She might be clever enough to think for her own good !
I wished I had been warned by someone about these " egyptian gamers".

I can related to your story . After reading all these interesting stories here I realized that obviously religion has nothing to do with their behaviour towards women. I think is more the culture. Mine is Christian and very devoted!!!!!!! omg!! By reading here all the posts I am freaked out! So many similarities in what they all say and what they do ( including mine too)! I see so many red flags now for the guy I have known for almost 2 years now. I don't have any relationship or sexual involvemnet with him. Thanks God!

I am lucky enough though that I did not burn my fur cause I never trusted him 100%. I have been always suspicious.

Sweet words, charming, poets, honesty (fake), purity and virginity, ( he is telling me is virgin ) sensitive feelings , he cries very often and tells me how much hurted he is when I tell him I don't trust him .......and all these well known tricks they use to make us fall in love. He never asked me for money or visa papers etc...However , he mentions that he would love to move to Europe one day and perhaps near me, cause Egypt has many problems. Basically he is only after sex !

Whenever I say " no" he is sad and ungry and disappears for several weeks & after he comes back telling me how much he misses me etc....!

Here is a small piece of my personal experience:

We met in the " Second Life" an online 3D community -world & not in any Dating Site because I have never been interested in any online romances or meeting someone on the internet. I had entered the "Second Life" community game that time only to kill my insolation and depression while being an expatriate in France. However , as a good "Egyptian Rat" finally persuaded me to open an msn account & talk there better. So I did !!!!! (stupid me!). I had never been in chatting rooms and I had never imagined that I would have finally gone through online chattings!

In the begining, he was claiming that he wanted to be my best friend and to help me with some personal problems I had that time. He was telling me that for him I was the very best person he ever had met, and he wanted me being his best friend and a "sister" to him. He also introduced me to his parents and grandmother online. They all seemed very nice people and they were happy for my good friendship I had with him. Last year for my birthday his mother and him sent me a nice gift! I was starting trusting him a lot and I was thinking that yes he was a nice and sweet person but still I only wanted being a good friend and nothing more. He had never asked for money or visa papers etc.... On the contrary he was telling me not to spend a lot for him especially when I wanted to send him a gift for his birthday too.

During our friendship he told me that he was falling inlove with me and I did not find it bad as many friendships can end up finally in a romance. It was 7 months after we had met. I can not hide it but ...I was feeling the same too! For me these feelings were normal because we were getting closer & closer as friends and we were spending days and nights talking about our lives. Eventually his friendship to me became a mad love , he was staying online just talking with me, he had blocked all his other contacts in his msn ( he said that his contacts were only some friends and relatives )! However, once we had argument , he disappeared & blocked me in msn for 1 month without any contact. After he appeared again one day telling me how much he missed me and his love to me is irresistable etc etc. That time I checked his msn profile and I saw in his history status message the word" Kissssssssssssssss"!!!! I asked him how come he wrote in his status this word while we were not in contact? ( He was always writing this word to me with my name next to it )! He told me that the "kiss" was for his little cousin who had birthday etc etc....RED FLAG that time for me but still this guy was quite clever to blind me! To make the long story short, every time we had an argument or whenever I was saying "NO" to anything he was asking me , he was disappearing and appearing again after several weeks telling me that he missed me etc..( most of the time it was me to send him email and ask him if he was ok etc..) But... I always had the impression that while he was away, he was not alone.....!

After 1,5 year he became sexually obssesed! He has been after sex subject constandly!!! Every conversation has been ending to sexual comments for fun or not! He has also tried many times to persuade me to do it online with him cause he can not wait till we meet! My answers have been always "NO" and eventually he becomes ungry accusing me that I don't love him trully and don't care for him and goes away for a while and comes back. His sweet words finally after 2 years became some inpolite sexual comments !!! Although I am already inlove with him, I have been always getting ungry hearing these words and besides he never apologizes to me but he keeps saying that he is a man and can not " cut it "!!!!!! All the arguments occured because he started pushing me too much for having sex in camera!!!!!He has been saying that he is so much inlove & sexually attracted to me that he can't control his body & wait till he meets me! Last month my mom came to visit me for one month and I had him online only twice within 1 month. He was disappeared most of the time and he only was coming few minutes online asking me if I was alone. I was telling him that there is no problem to talk while my mother was in my house. He was staying few minutes and was going offline saying that was tired , needed to sleep or sometimes had to go shopping or once I excused myself to go in the bathroom and when I came back had gone offline without saying anything!!! I still can't believe how this sweet and polite guy and very good friend after 2 years turned to be like that!!!!

This Easter he disappeared again for 3 weeks! I had called him but no answer! No even any card!!! I had my pc and laptop on all day long and during my work waiting ( stupid me) for a message from him! I was a bit worried to be honest. He made me to be emotionally addicted to him, and as a person I have big heart and I forgive easily..... I finally received one email accusing me of being disappeared and I was never online?!!!!!!!!!!!! He accused me of forgeting him and not caring for him any more!!!!! We had argument again!!! I had him online and he said that he had a car accident and was in hospital bleeding heavily. I asked him to open the camera for me to see his injuries and he was so ungry with me because I did not trust him!!! He went offline and disappeared again for another two weeks!!! RED FLAGS !!! RED FLAGS!!! I manipulated him !!!Next time I had him online , I apologized to him for my behaviour and I started talking in my way that time in order to catch more Flags!!! I caught them!!! I was aking him the same question in different ways and I was receiving different answers for the same question!!! ^.^

We are not in contact now.It has been already 1 month I haven't any news from him. Last month I had my birthday & two days before I had him online but I did not want to mention my birthday only to check if he remembers it :-) Ofcourse he didn't I think! He came online asking me to join him in the "Second Life" the 3D community where we met 2 years ago. We had never been in that community again since we started talking in msn & webcam. I was surprised and a bit happy from him to offer me to meet me there! I thought could be a nice romantic birthday "gift" after all . So he went first in this 3D community game first & I entered it few minutes after. He was in a sex section of this "community- world " !!!! I asked him for how long wanted to stay there because I was not interested in that section. He told me " take me wherever you want love! I am following you" . So I invited him in a better and a bit more romantic place than where we were first and we started talking a bit. But he was very quiet. During our conversation ( most of the time I was talking) I received again out of the blue a very unattractive sexual question: " CAN I S...CK your T....TS ?

I overpassed it pretending I did not see that question and I continued with our normal talking. He was quiet and a few minutes after he started begging me to tell him one YES or NO about his question! I asked him to tell me how he can "s....ck" me from far, why does he behave to me like that , and why he has changed so much since we met? I told him about how he made me feel by being so much sexual obssesed and about all the lies I had realized had said to me ( the red flags) and what about my birthday? Did he ever really remember it? I told him that it was my birthday and I asked him what I should expect from him.... He answered me " nothing, just happy birthday . So , could you ever allow me to s...ck your t...ts? " !!!!!!! I just told him that I do not deserve to meet such rubbish people in my life. It is a huge waste of time! I went offline I logged off and since then I have never left my status online. However, I received a very bad message in my email from him which I ignored it and one day while I was working till late with my PC after midnight around 1:00 in the morning I saw him online ^.^ Also, I googled his nick name and found him in a couple of dating sites on which had been registered while he was telling me was madly inlove with me and can not live without me etc etc..In one of these dating sites I saw in his profile saying that he was looking for casual sex partners!! omg!!!^^....If someone would like me to post here his names let me know:-) I didn't do it cause I am not sure if I am allowed in this blog.

I know I have been manipulated and used some how & I lost precious time from this Egyptian Guy but I am extremely sad from my self for being so innocent and naive! I had never imagined myself getting emotionally involved online with someone! I feel a bit ashame but happy too, because this story opened my eyes better and yes that is another life's lesson! I also Thank the God that stopped me some how of buying that ticket for Egypt and go to meet him personally!

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