Egypt, waiters, animateurs, emails...so on...BEZNESS

Submitted by Margaret (Poland), Jun 23, 2009 at 10:14

Calling you Shakira may rather not be a compliment- you see one Egyptian cleric called Shakira a "whore"

Dont you think there was a reason for a manager to keep his eyes on his employees ?

Probably there were complaints from pestered women- not everyone wants to be picked up by hotel staff...

He may be after "orfi marriage" it is a kind of "wild", temporary marriage- where the guy enjoys sex, but the wife resigns from her rights...

As a waiter he hardly have a chance of good marriage- as working in tourism is rather disregarded and looked down on- as the wages are low and men working there are uneducated- although they often claim to be lawyers, masters of...or even "writing a doctorate" who just happens to be working in the hotel...

Thats why duping Western women is their only chance of climbing up the ladder...

The term "Bezness" originates from the English word "business", and generally refers to profit-oriented activities of locals to tourists with the sole aim of creating advantages for one self.

In a narrower sense, the term is used for the pretention of love feelings toward women with the sole objective of gaining financial or material benefits or a residence permit in Europe.

The main difference between a "Beznesser" and a "Papagallo" is the fact that he is not just into an amoreuse adventure for the holidays, but he uses this only as the first step of his project.

There are many stages and forms between a serious and a Bezness lover, and in Tunisia, one can rarely find a "pure" representative of either kind - but one thing is certain: men who work in the tourist industry and are eager to contact tourists, almost always belong to the group "Beznesser".
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To come into "Contact" with a European tourist is easy - it is sufficient, to just talk to a tourist.

The easiest way is, of course, to obtain a job in the tourist industry, especially in the animation or restauration area in an hotel.
But even if such a position can not be obtained, the chances are quite good to attract the attention of a European women on the street, in a shop, a taxi or a discotheque.

Generally, they are 3 target groups:

• single, young and well situated women
• single elderly women
• all women

and the objectives are, in this order:

• Visa to Europe
• Financial donations
• Fun in bed

In line with these objectives, they proceed with:
It is, as pointed out before, unlikely, that a Bezness man confronts you immediately with demands eg. for financial contributions - unless you meet someone who is "new" to the business, or has several relations going and don't care whether or not he succeeds with a certain relation.

But sooner or later, there will be in almost all cases, open or hidden demands.

It usually starts with small things - talking about the own situation (no job, not well paid, etc.). Or they expect you to pay "pocket money" amounts (coffee, cigarettes, taxi) - and most Europeans will gladly do so, because, from their perspective, even paying for a visit to a discotheque or restaurant is quite inexpensive in Tunisia.

The next stage will be requests for small favors, such as bringing chocolate or alcohol, passing small amounts of money for charging the mobile phone and then it increases later to clothes, MP3 players, mobile phones, and even computer laptops.

Of course, demands for "help" are not always openly expressed, but are instead wrapped in reports of dramatic personal situations in the hope that the European comes forward by itself and offers help. Then they will then gladly accept the offered help, often after a while of grace (normally, I would never do it, but I have no choice right now) and often with the promise of repayment (which never will take place).

There are some relationships in which the beness background is almost always existing:

• Relationships with elderly women
  Even though the founder of Islamic religion gives a positive example, which will always be pointed out, the actual number of marriages between men with older women is extremely low. An elderly woman offers little social acceptance, especially if she cannot become children anymore.
  The financial aspect plays the major role here, because an older European woman usually owns a property and/or got a secure job, and thus constitutes at least for the time needed to obtain the residence permit a desirable choice.

• Relations with large women
  Even when Tunisian men like to say that they like that the money they "invest" into their women shall show up on her, there is a big difference between "chubby" and "obese" - obese women are in Tunisia, as well as in Europe, a target for bad and asteless jokes and social acceptance is rather low.
  However, such women are an easy "victim", because they often have a low self-confidence and are touched particularly, when an attractive man pretends to show interest in her.

• Relationships with divorced women
  Just as with older women, positive examples from the Islamic religion are often pointed out, but in reality, the actual interest to marry a divorced woman is very low and usually only found in the combination of a quite old man with a divorced young woman.
  In addition, such a relationship can be burdened by the children of another man, because the acceptance of children of another man is, with Tunisian men, very low, to say the least.
  This results even in domestic marriages usually to the case that, when a woman remarries, she will more or less abandon her children and leave them either with their father or elsewhere in the family of the woman or the man where they will then be raised.
  Divorced women are, as well, often seen as an easy victim, because a clever Beznesser will quickly gain an emotional access to a single mother who wishes on one hand again to have a complete family and on the other hand being longed for by a man.

All three groups mentioned above are preferred 'Bezness" targets, and members of these groups should keep their eyes particualrly "wide open".

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