Heartfelt post on Egyptian man and dating older women

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 23, 2009 at 17:58

Dear his queen or not:

Thank you for sharing your story, and welcome!!!

Let me just say that there are several concerns here.

1) You are right to be concerned about the age difference. The main thing you have to realize is that this man is only 23, and he has NOT lived most of his life as an adult.

Even more important: scammers and liars intentionally target divorced women with kids. It's a marketing strategy because they see you as desperate

2) Real love cannot and does not happen over the internet. The absolute best term to describe on-line romances is that they are a gamble.

If you really loved him, you would trust him. Clearly sIince you are looking to the internet for answers on a personal interaction, you don't trust him, and I do not blame you.

I can see where you think you love this man because he's got you in the "he loves me he loves me not" routine. This is a technique that players use.

3) This is not a good mesh. Think about it: His family is traditional, and let's say he's telling you the truth and wants you to convert for your own reasons. I can pretty much guarantee that his family will want you to convert.

4) Him not wanting to go to Egypt---this could change. A lot of times, scammers will wait until after the marriage to reveal their true selves. It's a very effective strategy over the internet, because you can only get to know so much, and if you are being lied to, you have no way of knowing.

And that's really the point. Look, how on earth can you know that he isn't a bad a person or has a night out on the town every night? Him looking good on cam won't tell you that. I've dated several women on-line before, one of them used a webcam, alright, to talk to me and to have sex with other men the entire time we are dating.

5) He says the perfect words--I'm sure he does, but so does every other man on here. All relationships start out good. I mean, seriously, would you date someone who was a jerk to you?? You've been down that road before. Another reason why they target divorced women.

I can certainly understand your attraction to this man. I have no doubt he is a charmer and very different from your ex-Canadian boyfriends. And let's face it---there's Western out there who don't have a clue on how to treat a lady.

But this has all the signs of a scam, and I really think that you need to listen to your mind. What happens a lot with on-line dating is that the communication amount just will never be a real date. You cannot feel him or move in synch with him or play footsie---all that stuff. I mean, you both have to sit in front of your computer to interact.

This is where the conflict of heart and mind come in. Your mind is your feminine instincts telling you that there is not enough information, and that this does not seem real. This is a common dilemma on here, and you've got listen to your mind because real love involves emotion (the heart) but also logic (the brain).

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