Second thoughts on Egyptian man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 23, 2009 at 19:10

Hi there Juana! Thanks for sharing that!

Let me just say this: There are millions of good Egyptian men out there! But the thing is, most of them will marry Egyptian women. You are not very likely to find a good partner on the internet from any culture. People who are on-line all the time usually have too much time on their hands, are looking to screw around with someone, are scammers or have some kind of social problem (usually a mental disorder). It does not mean everyone, but these are common.

Whenever I call clients for business, I'm always on the look-out for single men who sit around in their boxers just looking to mess around with us.

Here are the problems that I see:

1) First of all, he's already calling you his "new family" and you have never met? What if a man in your own country did this? Would you not find that just a tad creepy?

2) All the compliments and affectionate names----that happens ALL the time on on-line encounters. It really does not mean much of anything, usually.

3) Real matrimonial love simply cannot transpire on-line or over the phone. If you really loved him, you would not need our help to make any decisions about this. What's going on here is your heart is conflicting with your mind, specifically, your feminine instincts.

4) Like Zella said, if it's too good to be true, it probably is.

I can understand why you are attracted to this man, Juana, and I have no doubt that he is handsome and alluring, but I really do not like the pace of this. It's much too quick, and that is what liars and scammers count on---getting you hooked before you start to realize your man has any flaws.

I was in a similar as yourself. I met a woman on-line who called me baby and sweetie and those affectionate names and she told me she loved me. After 1.5 years of and off dating, she was having cybersex with other men and sending naked pics of herself to other men. She even took our car to have sex with another man.

Honestly, Juana, do you really think you're going to find a good husband and father on the internet? I know you have the strength to leave him. It won't be easy, it never is, but I'll support you 100%, okay?

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