orfi

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Jun 24, 2009 at 20:42

Hi Isis

from what I have learned and read about the orfi marriages, Egyptians supposedly look down on these marriages and say that the men don't really respect the women if this marriage is offered. These marriages are rife in tourism and are mainly used so couples can be together to stop police harrasment and is used by egyptian men to have sex. I don't think they use it for a real commitment but for some fun, then they can tear it up and walk away if they wish. Some european women are duped into thinking these marriages are a total commitment of love and a life long marriage not realizing the paper can be destroyed at any time and the marriage dissolved.. If a muslim man has good intent i have read on islamic sites that they would not offer this type of marriage. I understand that muslim men do find a wife this way but the nature of the orfi is abused by some low lifes who probably have had many many of these for their own satisfaction. I don't think many muslim men would allow their sisters to have such a marriage but as you say certain changes are taking place with re- to rights and i think then it won't be looked down on as much because it won't be so easy for the men to walk away. I married this way as my man stated this was the only way we could be together on holiday without the police hasseling us. I did understand it was not a legal commitment.

You have a good understanding of Egyptians and how they live and know far more than me, I have learned so much since my so called relationship but a hard lesson learned and nipped in the bud before the ugly weed appeared.

take care x

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