re: Amber

Submitted by Innocence (France), Jun 26, 2009 at 19:17

Hi Amber :-)

I have read most of your posts here and ........I can only see red flags :-(
I hope I am wrong and God to be with you and not let you get any pain by this man.

Concerning those tests I mentioned in my previous post to you , I only can tell you some that I did myself to my Egyptian friend.

1) If you are suspicious about something on him that does not seem clear enough to you : Try to ask the same question in different ways. Well , my friend was not such an intelligent person so he fell in my trap.But as you say your man is an intelligent guy so might not fall. Anyway try and see :-)

2) Have you ever been very busy and not being so much available for chatting some times? Try not to show him that you are dieing for him , and if he tells you what's wrong why you have changed etc ...don't worry ....they all say exactly this :-) I know how much inlove you are but start making him think that you are not 100% in his hands.

3) Do you know his nicknames, usernames then GOOGLE them! You can also google his emails because some times you get some results even from them in the search engines. I googled the username which my Egyptian friend is using in the 3D community "second life" and I found him registered in a couple of dating sites and his registration had occured when we had that "online romance".

4) Once I told him that I was going to buy a ticket and fly to Egypt within 1 week from the day we were online and he rejected it telling me it was not good idea because him and his dad wanted to make some works in the house :-( Well, I think if your man is dieing to see you not virtual but in person then I am sure he will never find any excuse for any time of the year :-)

5) If your man is genuine then he is not interested in meeting other women right? So, why don't you open another account and invite him? or even worse, use a very trustful female friend of yours and do it in case he likes webcam chattings.

Ok, all these sound like a teenager behaviour right? :) But, I 'd better act like that and get my answers in this way than to go further and burn my fur! Those men drive us paranoide, frustrated, addicted to them , they rip our heart and feelings.......There is no way Amber to find out if he is honest with you by just dating him online. Through a pc you can not see very deeply into his eyes, feel him, see any second's face reaction and look. You know what my Egyptian was saying ? He was telling me how much he wanted to hug and kiss his computer ! He also said that the day he would have met me he would probably fade! Has your guy ever told you that? Mine did :-( Sad isn't it?

Love
Innocence

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