Anon1

Submitted by Lisa (United States), Jun 26, 2009 at 20:44

Anon1, some Muslim men may feel this way, but not in every case. I know of Muslim men who have been in my country for many years with their wife and they have no children together. The wife converted of course and sometimes wear the hijab but i think her kids she has are by different fathers I am told. I know they have none together. He has stores and cell phone shops and has made good businesses here that prosper. They just bought a new home and have nice cars,etc. She is not an attractive woman by no means and he doesn't flirt with his customers and sometimes may not even talk to me cause his wife is extremely jealous. I think he is a good man and they are content in their relationship. He is their bread winner. She comes across as a lazy person to me and hateful.

I see what you are saying too with the cultural differences but you have to realize too that with some of these men the only cultural difference that will be a major factor in the relationship is the religion and if you can live with them practicing their religion, it should not be an issue. Depends if one wants to fight over beliefs and cause stress in their marriage and I for one, have an open mind and have no problem studing Islam and keeping an open mind and my husband is good and does not seem to push the issue. We seldom even talk about it. He had no problem doing his prayers while I was there as well and his family would pray too in front of me when it was time too.....I always saw them pray individually not as a group. I have no issue with his religion and he does not drink or care for ones who drink and I do not go out with friends and party and drink as well. So we will not have issues with this like some women who just don't want to give up their single life freedoms. My husband has been good about providing for himself making money there and he does not accept money from me and has not in 17 months......and today for the second time in a few weeks, he has asked me to not start the immigration papers and just come live in Morocco with him. He thinks it will be a good idea, but at the same time, I am thinking logically, but I do want to be with my husband. I know we need money and home to live in Morocco and he still lives in the family home. I did tell him if he is not happy here, we will see about returning to Morocco to live. He just wants me with him. He doesn't care where we live as long as we are together. My husband is a loving person. I can say I have to dispute what you say about all Moroccan men don't marry for love. I know many times he has frowned on his father not being more loving and kind to his mother. They fight over this issue and sometimes don't speak and avoid one another. I know my husband is a touchy feeling type person and always want you near or come over here and sit baby or lie over here or lay in my arms, etc...I don't think he is an isolated case. I am sure there are many others like him. There are a lot of western men too who do not know how to love. Heck 9 out of 10 times if the man is around friends or co-workers and you call him or he calls you, at end of conversation you tell your husband you love him, he will not tell you I LOVE YOU back...he may say hhmmm agreeing but not say the words like he is embarrassed too. oh well, its just men in general.....all these Moroccan men are not cold, They do marry for love despite what you think. some do not have hidden agendas.

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