To Laura, Some practical thoughts

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 4, 2009 at 01:27

Thanks for sharing your story, Laura.

First of all, why on earth are you going to marry a man you are suspicious of? Do you even know why you are suspicious? It's because your rational, feminine instincts are clearly telling you that you've never even met this man before!

This tells me firsthand that you neither trust nor love him. I'll bet you don't even know for certain if he's a Christian.

Let's face it, Laura, that is why you are on this blog and why you have been searching for information on the internet.

I've said many times on here that you only get a fraction of the communication over the internet and webcam that you get on a real date. That's a simple fact.

Also,--on "interracial" dating....aside from the fact that many Moroccans are Caucasian, the word "interracial" on here is often misused. What you are engaged in is an intercultural relationship. Quite different from dating someone in your own country of a different skin colour.

Laura, have you even read the State Department's travel information about Morocco, or do rely on this man to provide you with everything?

And I, for one, would love to see what these "negative" links are all about.

I can understand your attraction to this man, Laura, but you could very well be making the biggest mistake of your life.

A final word on the supposed "negative" comments on here----I do not see comments as negative or positive. Just because someone comes on here and brags about/defends their relationship does not mean it is "positive". They should not even need to mention on it on here; their very presence on here tells me that they are specifically looking up information about Islam at the very least and perhaps even searching for advice----even if they don't directly ask for it.

In fact, in every case I have seen/experienced, it means big trouble for the relationship. Most of the "negative" comments, as you refer to them, would actually be the most positive simply because they are based on first-hand testimonies that did not end well.

Have you ever noticed how Moroccan couples do not frequent this site??? It's because they are too secure and to busy with their own lives to care.

And let's remember the golden rule of posting, Laura: It's done for the sole reason of someone else reading it.

Laura, it does not matter what religion this man is, if you just stumble into a marriage that has a timetable based almost entirely on immigration papers, the chances for success are minimal to say the least.

What also bothers me about this is that he is essentially marketing himself. He is "leaving the decision" up to you because he knows you'll go through with it. That's a sales pitch If I've ever heard one. Believe me, he can tell you are butter in his hands. A lot of self-proclaimed "educated and independent" women on here are.

I just think, Laura, that you are too smart for this. I really do. I can understand the attraction, I've been there myself, but what you are about to do is a gamble at best.

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