Here's what appears to be happening

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 4, 2009 at 19:36

First of all, thanks for sharing that story, Caution.

From a guy's perspective, this man knows the dating game. He's trying to "confuse" you by putting up this front of being friends to keep you off-balance.

To be fair, Caution, I would say every relationship like this is going to have some sort of power struggle, but there's more going on here.

I've often talked about how quick marriage is used to catch people off guard and how it works wonders for the interested scammer.

It's really based on the speed of the relationship. It may also be no coincidence that he is after you because you are reeling emotionally from an engagement break-up.

Also, I would not be so hard on yourself. I don't think you're like toilet paper at all, but if you feel that way, Caution, perhaps it's time to cool it. What gets people into trouble a lot of the time is something sexual happens, and then one party expects a solid relationship and ends up getting hurt.

What bothers me the most is that you are the one giving the man this power. You're on here telling us that he's making all these plans, but you seem less than enthusiastic about it. Do you feel like this is something you have to do because you are worried about hurting his feelings??

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