Response to Tasha and the danger of "following your heart"

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 13, 2009 at 21:53

First of all, Tasha, most of the stories on here do not work out and the reasons are clearly stated. You, on the other hand, present no evidence, only emotion:

hi sweety. seems like your really confused. I would say to go with what you are feeling in ur heart and take a visit to Morocco. But I would not reccommend the marriage as soon as you got there. I would do a visit and then come home. If you are happy with his actions etc then you could go again and then do marriage.

A marriage after two visits is a bad idea. Tell me, Tasha, would you marry an American man after two dates?

My source is I had relation with Moroccan Man for almost a year. In my experience, I had one of the best. He NEVER ask me for money, I believe he truly loved me, and he was truly sincere, and truly wanted marriage with me for all right reasons.

For someone who has supposedly read our comments, you would in all likelihood come across my repeated statement that on-line, distance scammers will pretty much never ask for money. Instead, Tasha, they will just make up a sob story and guilt trip you into giving money. Strippers and clever waitresses do it all the time to men.

But he was already in USA, and already had green card. He was the best I ever have had. Not sexually because we did not do that. As he is muslim, and I converted for my own reasons and not his, and it is not allowed.

I would bet real money that if you had never met this man, you would not have converted. I do not and never will support conversions from Christianity to Islam.

He even offered to send me money, he would buy tons and tons of phone cards for my prepaid cell to talk to him on. I loved him and I have to admit, i messed a good thing up bad. He never did anything wrong, It was all me.

Somehow, I doubt that.

I was confused because I had just got divorced, and right before the wedding of me and the moroccan man, I left him. He cried so hard and I broke his heart. I realized I really loved him but then it was too late.

If you're divorced and involved in a situation like this, it's a warning sign. I'll bet he was younger than you too, wasn't he?

He hates me now and I truly believe there has never been any man that loved me as he did. I read and hear so many bad things about muslim men, arabic men, and especially Moroccan Men,

What you read on here with scammers and liars is not representative of Moroccan men or any culture on the whole. We've said that countless times, so your claim is absolutely incorrect.

But I can't say I have ever had bad experience. The only thing wrong with him was maybe he loved me too much because I destroyed him.

Loved you too much? I've had a similar experience with a woman I met on-line. She acted like this, but in the end, she was only after my money. Oh, and she never asked for any either. She actually made up sob stories to get her way.

I regret this everyday of my life, and I hope in someday he will forgive me. He was a little controlling, but that is normal for them. He only showed me how he loved me and was protective over me. I liked it.

Had you gone through with it, you very well might not have liked it. Sometimes, they won't even allow you to have male friends.

Besides, a lot of times in these international, inter-cultural relationships, the real person waits to come out until after marriage. Then, you have a legal contract with them and the state, one that is messy to break. That's how they get you. And, Tasha, you're man does not have to be a foreign scammer for a relationship to fail.

But he never beat me, never talked mean to me, never did anything really , All he ever asked of me was to do good things like not smoke nor drink etc, and to obey the religion, and to obey him if he was trying to tell me something for my own good.

Tell you something for you own good, huh? And you found this attractive? Tasha, it's becoming more and more obvious that you were just desperate. A lot of divorced women are.

There are so many Moroccan friends of his, and he hated them mostly but had to be around them because they worked together, and they would use american girls and talk badly of them, and laugh about it.

If he "hated" them, why were they "friends"? You can work with people and not be their friend.

They would call non virgin women in america, they call them bitches.

Interesting, considering that tourists can get sexual favors from Moroccan women in Morocco for 20 Euros.

I hate to hurt you because u seem nice, but if this man is asking u and asking u about money, then I would stop all contact with him. Just remember this, my moroccan man loved me and never asked me about money. NEVERR!!!!! And any man, be it american man or moroccan man, but any man that loves you will not ask for your money. It is ok if married, but he is refusing to wear a ring. Me and my moroccan man both wear a ring while planning to be married, we were so submissive to each others needs. He NEVER talked to another woman and expected the same from me.

It sounds like you're the one who was submissive to him. You said he was controlling. You converted to Islam. You are on here defending him and his culture. Think he's returning the favor wherever he is?

Like I said everything was truly perfect, I was only confused cause I had just got out of marriage.

If everything was so perfect, then why were you concerned with him controlling you?

Listen, Tasha, I can understand your attraction to this man, but your references to our comments are inaccurate to say the least, especially the most recent ones, and you even contradict yourself here. If you truly thought this was a perfect relationship, I can pretty much gurantee that you were not ready to marry this man, which is understandable, since you were recently divorced. It's a really, really rough experience, Tasha, but I'm not convinced at all that you lost a perfect man. I think you two were still in an elongated honeymoon phase, and it's very foolish to marry at that point anyways.

That is the fear of nearly every woman on this blog, but it's so irrational and phoney, and you've got to see it for what it is.

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