Hi Bewildered, I'm sorry for this--but it is VERY common behaviour

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jul 14, 2009 at 12:49

Hello Bewildered!!

First of all, let me just say I'm sorry to hear what is happening.

But, you're not alone here. The thing is after dating someone real silly and absurd, they are often hard to shake. The myspace woman, whom I mention from time to time, kept contacting me for years after things ended. She begged me to come back to her too. I thought she had changed, so I went to see her once, but she had not.

Of all people, my Grandma was concerned that she would still contact me years. Sure enough, it happened.

After it ended, she would call me every morning at the same time. My guess is that she was seeing a female therapist, dumped our entire situation on her as a sob story about how she ruined a relationship with a great guy, and was told in order to get me back to call me as such. It was interesting, since she had technically left me for someone else. Clearly, she just wanted more money.

When that didn't work, she would only call on holidays. Then it was e-mailing.

See, bewildered, these aren't "clean breaks". I really don't think you can have one if your man is a scammer or a liar. So, I understand how you feel.

What I would suggest doing is keep interacting with people in real life. See your friends and your family. If you can, block him on your phone and on your instant messenger. Don't listen to anything he says. If he leaves you messages, just delete them. The only time I would recommend saving them is if it's for a court case.

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