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Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Jul 17, 2009 at 02:22

Hi Becreative

I'm ok thanks in fact although I think about him often ,that yearning to see and hear from him is fading now and I am begining to feel happier without all the worry and uncertainty in my life. Ive realised its just not worth all the heartache when the odds are stacked against you. As time goes by with less communication you can think more clearly without them constantly pulling at your heart making you feel guilty and doubting yourself. You actually see it for what it is, a fairytale that they swept you up in and you wanting it to be real.

Guess what? mine also had a US profile too? said he was from an american suburb which I never heard of too! When I asked about this he had no answer, pretended he didn't understand what I was talking about ? So they must all be in the same buisness lol.

I don't know why mine keeps popping up every now and then but I get the feeling he wants to keep me on hold hoping I will keep going back for holidays for a steady income although I never gave him money for himself, I gave him money for the hotels and who knows if this is arranged by dodgy friends off the books! most likely. If they have several going over then hey they are quids in!

If they really cared for us they would be here all the time, not disappearing and coming back with excuses. I can think of mine now without the heartache but if he kept persisting too much i don't trust myself not to reply at some stage so i am trying to be strong as I know it will just be the same old crap, nothing new to convince me he really cares. He has gone again now so I am pleased I could show him I won't be messed around anymore

While we talk to them we will still yearn for them, believe me its hard but you will feel tons better to tell them straight and then ignore him. Wheres mine now after all his recent declarations of love missing you etc,? he has not said anything to convince me he is sorry, he just hopes i will fall for his sweet words and charm again along with all his others in tow. If you see your man on net you will simply yearn for him more, the biggest hurdle is to believe its not real and heed all the feelings you have thats somethings not right here and get rid, you will feel free again, why should we let these men control us the way they do? for the sake of charm good looks and exotic culture, promises and intimacy ? because all the rest will be heartache, doubt, insecurity and finincial ruin!

United in strengh together keep posting x

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