this could happen to you........beware

Submitted by lani (United States), Jul 17, 2009 at 03:15

It has been quite a while since I posted any comments or stories. I kept my mind open to all the advices given in this forum. In the beginning, I had my mind set on marrying a moroccan man. We dated for 4 years, but I had my own doubts of what our relationship would culminate to. The more I read about stories in this forum. I definitely made my mind up at the very last minute of how I wanted my life to be.

The story begins with the charming romance stage. Then comes the marriage proposal (just as everyone in the forum would share). Next is , getting conned into going to meet him and of course take a tour of the foreign countryside (a distraction for conversation). Next are the sad situations and stories of why he needs to have money sent to him. More promises are made of how good life will be for the two of you (only you will be making this life happen). Than you meet the family who allows him to break every rule that is against islam and of course he loves breaking the rules, too. There is nothing wrong with that for him, but later he will blame you for all his rule breaking of islam.

Most of you know this story already. Of course , I forgot to mention the many email addresses he has and he will make every effort to get your email passwords and condemn you for any or all things sent to you from others. I caught wind of all these scams and games. I went ahead and allowed some of the things that been told in this .......to happen to me. I did not walk away broken hearted. I was over it very quickly.

I helped him get his papers and when he arrived at my home all hell broke loose. We both applied for a marriage license and the whole time I knew in my heart I would not allow myself to marry him. I had him out of his element where I could see him in my world and not his. Of course , I had most of the control now that he was with me. I put off the marriage for months until his visa was to expire. He kept asking me, when we would marry. I would just say soon, but made no effort to arrange it. We fought day in and day out. I went out mostly every night and left him home. Of course, I was not at the cafe drinking tea and planning for my next victim that walks by. Now , he really had a taste of his own medicine.

Anyways, day comes to marry and I flat out tell him I cannot marry. I told him he needed to go back and that I had someone else. I really didnt, but I had to see his true colors and I must say to all the other women who want to marry men from these countries......there is a very slim chance you will find one that will be honest and give you what you want. I love my life and maybe I did this in the wrong way, but I feel good. I actually liked his family very much. Most times their families are in on the scam , too. So, be very careful. I got out of it and now he is threatening me to put my photos on sex sites with my phone number.

I have my life and family and more. Some of you may not agree how I went about all of this, but this is the way I wanted to do it. Enough said. Hope this post will give some of the women experiencing love on a different level.........and good view of what they want for themselves and family (if you have one).

Take care and good luck to all. Aloha HG

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