Time to let go for good

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Jul 19, 2009 at 13:58

Hi Pauline

I'm sorry you feel angry and upset, this is what they want, this is how they control us, they know exactly what they do and i'm sure they even think its fun to play these mind games. Think of all the times he has upset you, i was in the same stuation and thought I could show him i'm not going to be sh**t on by arguing with him, not answering calls and accusing him of cheating etc , but it makes no difference! all they do is act innocent and keep giving us the sweet talk.

It does drive you crazy and Pauline when you have calmed down, like me you may feel you handled it wrong, feel guilty etc but again this is what they drive us to and its soul destroying. If two people are happy and put trust in each other we don't carry on like this , always unhappy and suspicious. You may be tempted to let him contact you again, just to see what he has to say but as hard as it is you must try and get over this love hate relationship. No, we are not the only ones, if we were then they would be reacting in the same way when we confront them, but they don't because hey! they have others to concentrate on.

It has taken me months to pull away from mine even though I know he's a player and yes I still think of him every day but its easier now and i don't cry as much. He still tries to get me to talk on net but I ignore him and at times he is persistant, but he has nothing to say only words of love, same old record ,I sometimes wonder if he has any interllect at all but then again what else is there to say for them when theyr'e not really interested in our lives? So pick yourself up, dust yourself down and try to emotionally get away, it wont be easy and you will have many moments feeling down and he will be on your mind constantly. Since i have deleted him on net and can't see him its easier, and I have changed my phone number so he cant contact me on there. Time heals and you will feel better, you don't need this Pauline and neither does a lot of women on here

Save your sanity and your money, wishing you all the best xx

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