response to CTW relationships

Submitted by becreative (United Kingdom), Jul 20, 2009 at 16:09

just lost my post so if its duplicated -sorry- anyway i will try again - i think its expectation..Each person is different and expectations differ ..if you treat the relationship like a holiday romance or a romp in the sack as you said then you can keep it on a certain level and not maybe get as emotionally involved..
Then those of us who are emotionally involved, have met family , friends and family are involved it is slightly more to deal with... filling time with learning about Islam, arabic, family relationships, you put your whole self into the relationship to try and make it work,. May i stress the word YOU ....WE US .The distance matters because of the financial outlay.. you feel like you are dealing with something that you cant feel in a way i cant explain... The text, phone calls and internet are the ways of communication and its not enough its not physical , not real .- ......so you are the one that is giving your time,, eventually maybe your money, gifts......and getting so little back.....you dont think that at first , but then......maybe you realise that maybe he could be using others, and doing exactly the same, so what are you gaining.??? Your not happy.....you are not even being sociable, your head, mind and thoughts are elsewhere.....not healthy....
This is my My opinion and .i would put every inch of myself into something that was worth the effort..
I wish i had a magic wand because i would love to be with my guy - if he hadnt said the money word i would still be ....he still loves me but what is the definition of THIS love?? tell me that...

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