Age ... is it really the issue?

Submitted by Curious (United States), Aug 1, 2009 at 21:18

Obviously, most of the women here are over 35. I am well over 35, but if memory serves me, I remember experiencing loneliness in my teens and 20's ... actually, a lot more than I do now. I also remember worrying more about whether or not "he would call again" in my earlier years, as opposed to now, in my life as an older adult. This is eactly the same situation for many of my girlfriends, as well.

I've posted profiles on a few dating sites over the last few years and I've never had a problem getting a response. I've met lots of guys and made friends with those of all ages, but mostly younger ones. So, I dont suspect that age is really a deterrant. So much of your own success goes to how you interract and with whom you choose to act .

Additionally, I've never worried about a man "just wanting to go to bed with me" since sleeping with a man on a first (second, third, or beyond) date is never an option for me ... for what should be obvious reasons. If you dont sleep with a man straight off, no matter your age, then you don't really have to worry if they disappear from the face of the earth, or not, because you've kept your dignity.

Is age really the issue when a woman isn't blonde and a few pounds overweight? I dont think so. I work with plenty of 20 something girls and more of them fit that "not blonde and a few pounds overweight" discription than do my own peers.

It may be true that many men want a "model" type, but then, lots of women have the same unrealistic expectation of men. Our job is to weed through the b.s. and find someone with realistic expectations. No, it's not easy ... it never is easy at any age, but there are a few good ones out there. You're just much less likely to find a right one if you waste time trying to hold on to one you know is not good for you.

And while we're on the subject of this guy you know is not good for you... for example, our muslim male friends from Morocco, Egypt, Turkey, and etc, lets take it a step beyond the issue of "age" and analyse these guys a bit more closely.

So, many of these men seek either to get a green card or money from older western women, then leave the relationship for that all illustrious "younger woman", native to their own country. Well, I must admit, there are many beautiful young women in these countries ... but I've also noticed something else. These same "beautiful" young women marry these guys and seem to turn into middle aged, overweight women over night, often after the first baby, perhaps the second one. Then what? He's gotten the benefit of a couple of good years, but then reality rears its ugly head and he sees what he's stuck with.

Now, here he goes back again onto the web, back into the 40's plus chat looking for those american, british, and aussie ladies who seem to manage to keep themselves so very nicely for all of their years. Hmmm .... now what's that all about?

I suspect that the issue we're really dealing with is not an issue of age, at all. It's an issue of a con who does what a con does best in any and all situations ... he lies, cheats, and cons. He lies, cheats, and cons the older lady. He lies, cheats, and cons his wife (or wives), he then takes on extra-marital relations when the great dream wife goes bust and continues to lie, cheat, and con his new mistresses and/or gf's.

Now, think about it. Does a logical mind, at any age, really want to fit into any part of this equation?

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