She will try to listen to his lies even if there is always some doubt in the back of her mind. Another crushed heart just in the waiting...

Submitted by Stephanie (United States), Aug 2, 2009 at 20:31

Pauline I think it is a common reaction. I got the same reaction by another woman that I think he was messing around with. She just didn't reply to me. And as for his "wife" she was way harsh to me. She spends her days now on allpoetry.com writing poems to me and about me calling me a b*tch, whore and every name in the book. I haven't said one word, written one word in response to her for atleast two months but she seems obsessed with trying to get my goat. I just ignore, her which only seems to piss her off more. I don't get it? I really hope she does get tired about writing poems about how she wants to light me on fire, and do terrible things to me etc...lol and start actually putting some real effort into something really meaningful. It's sad, a 31 year old woman acting like a fourteen year old.

I must admit, at first I was so curious to know what she was like. After all, when you have a man say he loves you for three years, that he wants only you, calls you ever day and flies to you to be with you all the time, well it makes a girl wonder where in the world did this other woman come from. It would have helped if he atleast had lived with her. The signs would have been more obvious to me lol. When I first saw her it was clear to me it was for a green card. She is not an average size woman...she is wayyy obese Anyway, so I read her poetry to begin with to see what kind of woman she was like. After all, its a public domain and she posts them for everyone to read. If she doesn't want me to read she can take them off right? Unlike her, I never write anything in response. I just have ignored her for the last two months and I think it is driving her insane. I suppose the "husband" is on another quest for another woman and since she doesn't have him to lean on she has nothing better to do than be obsessed with me now. I can tell you this much. I am thankful I don't live in PA cause I am a bit scared of her lol. She is like one of those woman you'd see on Jerry Springer pulling her bestfriend's hair out. I read some of her writings and her grammar is like someone that hasn't even finished high school even.

Right now you are right. The two are probably talking about you. I know she did to him and the only reason he responded at this point was the fact that he was scared crazy that I'd make trouble for him here in the USA. After all I had proof he wasn't living with her the whole year they stated to the Government that they were living together. I had proof he called me everyday. I had proof he stated he loved me every day in texts and voice mails. I had proof that he came and spent weeks with me while he was married. I had this proof that could destroy him. He got terrified and turned totally evil and so she is needed right now to cover his a*s. She knew the whole time he was seeing me while they were married when I didn't even know. The worst thing is, she might have cared but she is happy now because he has a reason for needing her even if it isn't for sex or love. Atleast she has some kind of connection and she did write this to me exactly in that way. I feel it so strange that anyone would stay with a man that slept around with othe women all the time. That won't even live with her(I am sure he says he has to make money and that is why he isn't there with her...you know no jobs where she lives lol) It just seems so degrading and as if has no self respect. I feel sorry for her really because I know she is desperately lonely. I tried to tell her but in her case, I know she is dreadfully sad now but when he totally disappears out of her life she will be broken. Its her fault though.

Now on the up side. These men and their multiple IDs lol. The man I know has been in the usa for the last two years but this is an id on myspace for him too:

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