The role of age and where and why it matters and attention from men on dating sites

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 3, 2009 at 15:24

Thanks for sharing that

First of all, it is very clear that age plays a role. As far as this blog is concerned, it usually involves, older divorced women. This particular group are targeted by players and scammers for motives like money, sex or a green card.

You say you have posted on dating sites before. Have you noticed how even they will warn that an age difference of 20+ years requires extreme caution? This is because relationships between older women and younger men rarely amount to anything more than flings.

I am 27, and I would hesitate even to seriously a woman who is 30, much less 47. It can be fun at first, but then again, that's pretty much how it always starts. There is literally an unwritten rule among players and scammers that divorced women are desperate, easy and even weak. I've heard a lot of "well, I'm independent, I'm a Western woman with a free will."

Doesn't matter. Most of the time, the woman either gives into the man, or the relationship ends. If you were to set-up a feminist with a male Taliban, I would bet real money the Taliban would have the woman turn into a nice housewife who is not allowed to have male friends or leave the house. That's an extreme situation, but this blog is filled with variations of that same story.

It is also worth noting that such scams are spread much further than just Morocco and Egypt. I would say that Western men are a much easier lure than Western women. For one thing, they are less likely to discern what is happening.

But make no mistake---if you are divorced, with kids and have a desperate attitude, you are like a bleeding seal to a shark.

No one on here is saying that you aren't supposed to feel that way or that's it wrong, just understand your situation and that there are people out there will take advantage of it.

The second topic you talk about I want to address are getting attention from men. Well, there are men who are interested in older women. It has been said on here that Muslim men "don't care" about age, yet the real trend are younger men in the West who want sex and are persuing troubled, older women who might be easier to get between the sheets. Only rarely are they interested in a genuine relationship.

As is typical in the West, dating trends often start with lifestyle decisions made by men, and women will eventually follow suit. That is why we are seeing an increase in these flings---even sex vacations---to North Africa and Egypt. Western men have been going on such vacations to everywhere from Brazil to Cuba to Thailand and even conservative Middle East countries such as the UAE and Syria for sex.

I appreciate your insight, but age really does play a role and does need to be considered, especially on here.

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