Luigi ... :)

Submitted by Curious (United States), Aug 4, 2009 at 07:39

Luigi, are you responding to my post, or to someone elses? True, age can play a role depending on the people involved, your expectations, etc. However, you see the world through singular eyes, I'm not quite sure you understand there are vast differences in people, personality, etc.

You may be 27 and not consider friendship, or otherwise, with an older woman ... but that doesnt mean every man thinks that way, Luigi. Believe me, they don't.

There are some men out there who WILL consider a serious relationships with older women. The point of the essay ... a woman's job is to go through a discovery process and determine who is serious and who is not, then making the necessary "cuts" before she lets herself into a disappointing relationship.

Of course, we've already established the fact that a man's motivation can be money, sex, or a green card. I suggest that we're all responsible for discovering the man BEFORE we ever consider getting involved with him. I believe this is the point you're missing. Who in their right mind would ever want to have a friendship, relationship of ANY kind with a man who is little more than criminal? I think you miss my meaning.

I think you also missed another point about sex. Why ever would you have sex with a man when you dont know his true motivation? If you do, you're just asking for trouble. Personally, I do not and I suggest other women give this some serious consideration.

Do you really think every woman divorced and over 35 is really "desperate"? Well, I for one am not. I doubt that I'll ever remarry because I like my life as it is and I think other women might have the same thoughts.

Try to bear in mind that there are differences in people, Luigi, and our job is to spot the differences, look for those inconsistencies in a man's actions and behaviour, thereby eliminating any potential problems BEFORE we allow a relationship to progress.

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