he is a insecure control freak,believe me,

Submitted by nadia eghbalimanesh (United Kingdom), Aug 4, 2009 at 11:05

my dear,i am so sorry for u,u dont need a turkish mans opinion,this is nothing to do with culture.i willl tell u straight,ha,haaaaaaaa,he must think all of his birthdays have come at once,he is walking all over u in the name of his culture,which gives other turkish men a bad name ,because he thinks u do not know any better,u didnt state your age but i am guessing not very old, not meant as insult sorry,

hhhmmm were was i,oh yes i am fuming,i too am english,been married to an iranean man for 10years,they are very similar both in culture and custom,and are both muslim,my ex husband was very relaxed in his religion as well,but still wanted our son amir to have a muslim name and be muslim,that is just them being proud of there heritage thats okay,

i also dated an iraqi kurd for 3years and he used to play exactly the same games as this character is doing,listen,firstly,he could never ever treat a turkish girl this way,she would just tell him to get lost,so y u,i tell u y? he knows firstly u dont know his culture and customs so is trying to be cleva and use them to get his own way,like wen u said is this some sort of turkish dating game,remember,big mistake my friend,u let him know u r clueless,then he laughed,this laugh was a conceipted laugh at u,not because he thought it waw funny,secondly,u want the answer y he is doing this,because u r allowing him too,he is trying to take full control,by calling the shots wen u cum ova wen u call him and saying leave him alone ,then demanding an explanation as to y u didnt call him,same as any man would do he is male,forget the fact he is turkish,thats no excuse and nothing to do wiv it,

treat him as u would any male,u tell him next time he calls,listen u treated me wiv lack of respect,i do not accept this treatment from any male,and do not need telling to go out wiv other guys,from you,as if i wish to do so i will,as we are not married or engaged i do not need your permission,when he says u r diosrespecting him wen u talk like this as he will,ask him how it feels,tell him you are a good woman with a clean heart and deserve better,and you can find,politely say kodaharfez,,,goodbye and leave it at that,if this guy has any love ,care or respect for u,he will be around banging your door apologising and respect you for this,if he does not ,then reli and honestly u have lost nothing,and your pride and self respect will still be in place,but he will fink of these words for a long time to come,ok,believe me i have 10years experience,you are not a circus monkey there to perform trix for him wenever he wishes,turkish women demand respect from there partners and husbands,you are no diferent,do not let him downgrade you,he is trying to control you,untill in the end you will be scared to even sneeze without his say so,he is a very sad and insecure boy,not man,shame on him,be strong,

please let me know how you got on okay,hope this advice helps you,by by nadia

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