I think if we were on Oprah, more women would realize that they are being scammed...

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Aug 5, 2009 at 20:40

I would love to go on Oprah, though I am not a fan, I feel she uses people to reveal their insides, then walks away...BUT it would enlighten the women out there who have NO IDEA they are being SCAMMED. See for me, I met this guy who was like "Oh, those extra pounds are perfectly fine...the fact that you are divorced, lived with other men, etc...NO PROBLEM, your min.wage job, is just fine..." Hah!!

I have been pressured to lose weight, not spend one cent for anything, no trips, no vacations, no dinners, no new clothes, NOTHING. Just work! (Don't worry, I've reduced that with the help of the economy). Anyway, my red flag that brought me here to ask questions and tell my story was that we did not even live together the first 6 months of the marriage!! He said : "But I MUST live in this other place for work etc...

Only when it was time for our first INS interview, did he move most of his stuff in. Then about 2 weeks AFTER the interview, he moved in permanently. My 2 year period is up this month, so I am sure he will be leaving soon. Last week he suggested I buy a house for myself. WHAT??!! He was half asleep, but it sticks in my gut...What married couple purchases a house on their own?? I am still muddling through what my next steps will be...I will keep you posted.

Anway, back to Oprah...I think 90% of us would not want to show our faces on TV. Also, when people ask me how long we have been married, I add a few years, so people don't think he married me for Visa. EVERYONE knows about the 2 year period. EVERYONE questions when you marry a foreign born person. But no one understands how lonely it is without a partner...

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