Reply to Amber Rose ...

Submitted by Curious (United States), Aug 7, 2009 at 23:46

You're very welcome, Amber Rose. And by the way, if I really wanted to know what the other is doing online, beside hiding on invisible and using webcam, I would use Spectorsoft remote spy http://www.spectorsoft.com/spysoftware.asp?refer=12285. Easy to deploy by attaching it to any file you might send by email. Then you'd have the rest of the story.

No, hes not an Egyptian. The man in question is a moroccan I began speaking with him close to a year ago. After reading forums such as this one, I naturally became suspicious. He wanted me to go there for a visit, but I really didnt want to bare the expense and emotional burden without first knowing his true intentions.

Life is just too short and my purse is too tight to throw away money and emotional investment for a man who may have ulterior motives. We used to share lots of videos and music and from that, I thought about doing a remote investigation ... seeing what he is really up to online, but I decided I would just let it go for a while and see if time might add more dimension to my thought processes.

I would be interested to know if there is a way to check marriage records in other countries, such as Morocco. That could be a really big help, most especially after reading some of the earlier posts in which it was mentioned that some of these men already have a wife ... a wife who knows exactly what is going on and hoping that her husband can find a good mark, con her into bringing him to the u.s. or other western country, then dropping her as soon as he gets her money and legal residency, and finally, bringing his wife over to join him.

Of greater concern, some of those posts mentioned cases in which some of these men began poisoning the sponsoring women, I suppose to speed their demise and get them out of their lives. I'd say that's an extreme, but if you're living with someone who really doesnt want to be with you, you can bet they're not going to be very happy, and physical abuse might easily result.

I did have an odd encounter with one egyptian man by the name of Sameh. He met his American wife online and brought her to Dubai where he was working at the time after only a week of knowing her and they married. They were together for less than a two years. She is now back in the states ... the whole thing fell apart. But, from what I can gather, they would not let him go to the u.s with her, even though they were married. Now, he's out looking again for another American wife ... not really sure why because if he couldnt get to the states by his first wife, I dont know why he thinks he'd be able to get here by another one. I'd love to know if anyone has insight.

Thanks again for your reply.

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