Hope

Submitted by Nala (United Kingdom), Aug 8, 2009 at 02:03

I am a Britsh female and I want to clarify something for all you woman out there that have had bad experiences with Arab men. First of all, I'm posting this comment for all western females and also a message to all the Arab men that are doing a forbiden thing within their culture or religion. Girls, let me tell you that all Arab men are individuals and not the same, just as Western men are different to. If a large majority of the woman here have had a bad experience, then I want to give at least a little hope to you all out there that are involved in these types of relationships.

I am in a relationship with an Egyption Man, he is slightly younger than I by about 6 years, which is normal for a European Female. My BF is from a very open minded family, they are good Muslim family but open minded at the same time. He is educated and studied in the USA so he is aware of the western culture, although British culture is slightly different from USA. I think he Loves me, as he tells me but he also shows me by talking to me for almost the whole day on the phone. It's not the sweet words he says or the fact that he tells me to come live in Egypt, NO it's because I know I am good enough for him, I have the confidence that I will never allow myself to be used for Visa or passport. How can we prevent this and know if he Loves u true? well don't have sex before marriage firstly and don't be so willing to allow him to come to your country, stay in his country for a while, as a tourist and extend your stay for even upto a year, if he Loves you he will support you and take care of you while your in his country. After this time you will feel if you can trust him, or not. Make sure you marry through Imam firstly to show his commitment to you and then have a proper wedding party with his family, friends etc. This will at least show that he is a little serious about you. Stay in his country once married and sign a document that states that you will not allow him to get a visa for entry into your country without your willingness, I think this can be done although I'm not 100% sure, through a lawyer kinda like a contract between the 2 of you, if he is willing to do this then he Loves you true if he trys to make excuses then you need to watch out!!! he could be playing you, my BF has agreed to all of the above just to show me that he will do anything for my Love, he is also the one who offered to marry through Imam only.

I trust him but never 100% and don't ever be scared to question him, remember if he Loves you true then he will do anything for you, remember this.

A message to all Arab men out there that hurt woman that are easy targets, remember what goes around comes around, if spread bad Karma be sure that Allah will return it back to you. Why not try to open your mind a little and Love the person at least, life is tough for us all so it's wrong to use people and especially in the way that these woman are being used. What you are doing is a disgrace to your people and your culture including all that you are supposed to believe in.

I hope that I have given you hope and some things to look out for.

Nala

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