IrishGal-

Submitted by squeaky580 (United States), Aug 8, 2009 at 07:14

There are a few things you need to take into consideration.. One, that you said you just met him online in June, and that you only stayed with him in Morocco for one week.. It's really not a long time to spend getting to know someone to be thinking about big commitments at all.. Another thing is this, you say you don't think he would be interested in an Irish visa. What makes you say this? Is he wealthy in Morocco? Morocco is a very poor country and the majority of men in their 20's and early 30's are desperate to get out because work is so scarce and they feel hopeless.

You have to understand that in Morocco, it's not like in Europe and the USA where you can go apply for a job and be considered. They work on an old fashioned bribery based system where you have to PAY to be considered for a job.

And I want you to know this.. If he tells you that he expects you to convert to Islam and cover yourself and raise the children Muslim, he means it sincerely, and there is nothing you can do to change his mind. It's his religion, he is from a Muslim country, you have to respect that his religion is very important to him, and if he mutually loved and respects you, he would respect YOUR religious choices as well. Moroccan men ARE extremely jealous and possessive, they are very charming, and they know how to get what they want from western women. What I wrote in my original post was not to sugarcoat any of these facts.. Alot of the comments that are posted here are very well rooted in fact.
You never mentioned how old you are and if there is a signifigant age difference between you.. That is the biggest red flag if you are much older than him, because arab men do not seriously marry women who are too senior to them

My advice to you is to be cautious and take things slow. Stand by your principles and what YOU believe in, and don't let him rush you into making poor decisions.. If you met a man in school or in a pub, you wouldn't be considering marriage with him after 2 or 3 months.. It should be the same in this situation. Don't send him anything, and be wary if he asks you to. If you feel secure enough, return to Morocco and spend more time there.. Go in the off season when there are less tourists, and ask him to show you "real" Morocco, so you have an idea of where he is coming from, truly. And meet his mother. You never really know how ANY man will treat you after marriage until you see how he treats his own mother.. And good luck to you. :)

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