What turkish men want

Submitted by S y H (Trinidad And Tobago), Aug 12, 2009 at 12:34

I am from the Caribbean and i met a Turkish man online one evening. Realising that we lived on the same island, we met for coffee and hit it off. Our relationship began as a friendship and grew, we became lovers. I eventually fell in love with him and when his tenure was done, he returned to Turkey to start a project. We used the internet video and audio medias to remain in contact and he asked me to visit him one evening. I agreed and made the reservations to spend 6 nights with him in Turkey. I was excited to see him again because we were apart for more than a month.

In turkey, he treated me well, and we visited quite a few sites as we drove on the way to Kars, the city where his project was due to commence. We had a disagreement at a travel agent office and he became so upset that i could challenge his decisions, that the atmospher changed between us. Nevertheless, i tried to ignore it and continue with our relationship. Things were moving alone well and eventually I returned home. Again our media of coverage was through the internet.

This would have been his fourth or fifth long distance relationship, but my first and i held onto the belief that if two people want each other the distance is coverable via air, so idealy we were going to visit each other about twice a month. On one of his stop overs while undertaking his project which would have taken him from Kars to Istanbul, he stopped over at a hostel. At 3 am turkish time, I realised that he was online and i called and we got into an argument and he called the relationship off saying that he does not love me, has never been in love with me and the relationship would not work, BUT we could be good chaps and friends, because he has a lot of friends of this nature. I was broken inside. Now i have read this article, I am in support of the fact that Turkish men do desire power, total control over their women, and is very full of pride. This is the drive in any relationship that they are involved in.

I support the author and I believe that Turkish men do desire POWER, is very full of PRIDE and possess a great desire to CONTROL. It is unfortunate, even though I have tried to understand why this is prevelant, it is shockingly common when i spoke to those that i know that have had a relationship with a Turkish guy.

Ladies plese be careful, dont do as i did and trust impressions. Investigate and desifer all the avenues. I must say however, that Turkish men are very good lovers, but poor companions in life.

Regards
SyH

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