Sounds like the exact same guy !

Submitted by jasmin (France), Aug 12, 2009 at 17:12

I know what you mean, when i was reading your story, it was so identical to mine incredible!

They will say anything to make you fall in love, the mind games, manipulation, which can drive you insane and of course the disappearing acts, not answering the phone and the excuses, you so much want to believe. But deep down you know somethings not right, that its a load of crap. Then you get angry, loosing control over things, its a vicious circle.

I think for them its all about control over us and making us their proprety, and then they can go out and do what the hell they like. So your constantly thinking whats going on...He didn't like me going out he wanted me to stay at home, and when we did go out together he would out right stare and charm other women because maybe he was thinking maybe she would marry me, then the arguments become a rituel etc... whatever! as much as i loved him, i have been more unhappy then happy, even though i thought i was happy and i've lost my job and friends due to this.

I think its very easy to fall in to their trap they're exotic, exciting fun most of the time. When they don't get what they want they loose interest and all the charm fades away and they start to be mentally abusive.. thats when you put an end to it.. now i'm in the process of gaining back my confidence and trying to forget this experience.

Best of luck ! xx

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