To Career Girl - being firm

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Aug 13, 2009 at 03:29

Well said!

I agree that the majority of the women with stories on here just don't want to believe the turth and realise the inevitable. Committing to a relationship with a man that you have never met in person but only over the internet and declaring undying love and commitment is naive, desperate and delusional. Together with a complete ignorance of Islam and no understanding of middle eastern culture, 99.9% of these relationships are a disaster just waiting to happen. Funny thing is when the relationships fail it's always the man's fault and the women take no responsibilty for their actions. They have ALLOWED themselves to be snared despite all the warnings but in the end I suspect that they enjoy being the victims.

To even hope that an internet romance has a chance make a point of meeting the man in person, live in the culture, study women in Islam, study the man and his family and above all don't rush into marriage. It takes a very long time to get to know someone to the point that you are confident of commitment even in our western society so imagine how difficult this will be in a totally foreign society? All this cannot possibly happen over the internet. Where are the pheromones?

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