To Curious: More excuses and "just being friends"

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 13, 2009 at 16:07

But one thing that is apparent is that you seem to want to be sure that all relationships between older women / younger men (or vice versa) will never work out.

If what you are saying is true, then I would lobby for only people of the same age to marry, which is ridiculous.

Your statement here is just an excuse that women use to continue relationships they are not sure about, and the fact that the chance of things not working is not zero is an unacceptable risk and excuse from where I stand and it always will be.

In this life, never say never

This is not some of movie where the underdog prevails, Curious. This is reality. And reality is based on facts. And the facts are very simple:

1) In any culture, it is far more likely for an older man to marry a younger woman than vice versa. Why?

----a) Because of biological differences. Women often mature faster than men. Ever hear of young men saying how they wish their female counterparts would act their age? Because I haven't. In fact, I've heard from a lot of women that they prefer someone who is mature, and that usually someone is older, and that they are tired of dating "boys".

----b) Women want someone who will protect them. That does not just come with strength, as wisdom, experience and intelligence can be associated with this feeling. It's a given that your average older guy is going to have these things versus your average young man.

----c) As a result of this, cultures have developed deep traditions of men marrying women who are the same age or younger. Occasionally, yes, there will be a situation where a man is a year or two younger than the woman....Meaning that the age difference is barely discernable at all, and not by appearance! However, it usually comes that they were raised in the same culture, setting, religion and close by. The situations on here.

Also, my observations indicate that most of these types of relationships are with older couples, back in days when people were more upstanding and decent in the Western world----and especially the men were different and knew how to treat a lady. These days, Western men are more often than not a product of extremes---either a jerk or a submissive, self-pitying "nice" guy.

Neither attitude will land them a healthy, lasting relationship.

Speaking of such things, I would advise caution these "friendships". I have a feeling that if you allowed yourself to, these guys would be sexual with you in a heartbeat. Believe me, it's one reason why men stick around---they hope for a chance.

And besides, you're talking about friendship. The women on here are by far and large looking for marriage. There's quite a difference.

And no, not every poster is a visa scammer. There are plenty of other motives and reasons why these relationships fail. Aside from the scammer, you're going to have your usual pool of liars and jerks and even if not that, the cultural differences.

So you see, Curious, it really is not all that black & white as you make it out to be. Only excuse-makers need that philosophy to convince themselves of something that their natural instincts go against.

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