think hard about this

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Aug 15, 2009 at 05:36

Hi Jasmine

from reading your posts i think you are missing him and feeling a bit guilty as to the way you were with him. Your instincts were screaming at you that something was not right and thats why you reacted the way you did, so don't feel guilty! you said he had excuses, disappeared, played mind games and that you were more unhappy than happy in the relationship. Also what struck me was that you said he would stare at and charm other women in your company, a man who truly cares for you would certainly not do this, even if he is the type to make you jealous would you want this in a relationship,? you said he had no job but never lifted a finger to help? depression or no depression he should be making an effort. Jasmine listen, you worked 10 hours a day, did not have much money, felt things weren't right, wasn't happy, no wonder you were not sympathetic with him, I would of been excactly the same. We all know if someone is making an effort and he clearly wasn't, think about what life would be like with him, love is not enough, and sorry to be honest but I doubt if he loved you for real,there is many similarities to his actions to many women on here, because you want him so bad you are questioning your actions to him, I did the same and I felt so bad for reacting the way I did, he made me into a person that was constantly suspicious, angry, guilty, confused, argumentative, paranoid, I am not this person, I am kind and loving, loyal and honest, do we want a life the way they change us? NO! Follow your head, your heart will eventually heal, I still long for my man, the time I had with him I will never ever forget, why I don't know, but its easier when I think of him now, I am getting on with life, although its not that exciting but its real life not that fairytale romance! my hair has even stopped falling out now! stress!! we can do without the stress! You will miss him terribly, they have a way to get you right where they want you unless you are strong enough to break away, I have my down days but not so many, I often think my mans other woman is lucky but is she??? Jasmine THINK AND THINK AGAIN

I wish you all the best xx

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