Being in a "good, solid" relationship and talking about it on-line

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Aug 16, 2009 at 11:25

Why wouldn't someone come here who is in a happy, enduring and solid relationship? I am, and I come here from time to time because the site name came up on another forum for women married to MENA men that I am a member of.

If your relationship is so great and wonderful, why are you not enjoying it? Are my posts really so great and insightful that my mere words can pull you away from such a wonderful man?

Also, I have observed that people who need to discuss their relationship on-line often have issues with it. It could be very complicated, or just the mere fact you cannot bring yourself to trust your man.

The woman who posted was quite clearly being scammed and was ranting about how horrible this site is.

I can believe that, and it's amusing in a sick way. I mean, she can't even come on here and tell us how she feels? I ask why? She worried one of us might talk her out of a "relationship" with such a "wonderful" man?

That's my challenge to her.

Give it a year or two and she'll be limping back to the forums, maybe even under a different name and possibly slamming Muslim men. It's happened before.

Little good often results from these types of relationships.

Curiosity got the better of me, lol. I like to think of myself as something as a casual MENA anthropologist ;) and swing by from time to time just to see some of the horror stories and scams that take place (and am often quite horrified by how low some men go).

Yeah, scammers and liars will pull out all the stops, even suicide threats and if they know they've got you pegged, they'll even threaten to end the relationship if it suits their needs.

A very different breed than the Nigerian lotto scammers.

I post on rare occasions where I can add value, but never 'my story' because it's very much different and I have no axes to grind.

I think you're worried that posters on here will find flaws in your "relationship". Most women who take their time to post on here don't have "axes to grind", they are unsure and looking for answers and explanations.

I would like to hear how your story is "different" because if you read most of the romance stories carefully, there is always a tone of hope that theirs is somehow different.

You simply telling me that it is "different" is insufficient to say the least.

Usually Luigi, you make some very valid points, but suggesting someone is only here because they are in an unhappy relationship errs on the myopic.

It's pretty clear that some women either don't recognize the state of their relationship or are simply unwilling to admit it, thinking that readers will have to take them at face-value. But, anonymous, you underestimate me if you think such things because by simply being on here, you have already communicated more than you realize. It's not the first time this has happened, either.

For your sake, I really think you need to think about what is really going on in your life. That is my chief concern here. I certainly will not laugh or jest at you if you take a serious look at what is happening. There's more to this site than me being right and you being wrong or the other way around, Anonymous. There's no trophy on here other than you getting some peace of mind.

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