My Heart Breaking Relationship of 4 years with Sudanese Man..Please Read! I Need Advice

Submitted by Sherry (United States), Aug 16, 2009 at 16:18

It all started from an internet single site. I was tired of american men. I met what i thought was a wonderful man on feb 6th 2006. From the beginning it never really seemed normal. He was kind, Sweet and Charming..from Khartoum in Sudan but a candain Citizen of 10 years who came to work in his cousin store..which happened to be just around the corner from where i live, but he never wanted to talk about future things, time together wasnt that big a deal nor was phone calls.I told him from the beginning i was lloking for someone who can i be with long term and promising. When we would have disagreement i was always wrong and he was always right....weeks would pass if i didnt call and say sorry or make up...on a few occassion he did call. Its been for years now. I finally got engagement ring on july 27th of 2009.....after practically saying i was tired of waiting...his excuse we argue all the time, or i pressure him, or i need patients it was something...the whole time i have lived alone with my son and he lives around the corner i even work in his business..just me and him unless his cosuin is here in the states...i wanted to live together for long time but never got that so finally he told me to find a house, well now i did and we are ready to move in it around two weeks. the problem now is ...in the past he didnt pay me no attention spent alot time alone..he didnt like me alone always accusing me..and in the end when i got the ring i told him...hey if u want me...do something different...i have waited 4 years and i wont get online for chat...all the while he chats..and even found he was chatting in an id i made especially for us, excpet he forgot , i knew thw sign up info and got in it..to find he was showing nude photo ..on cam shoWing ..looking and women writing i love u ..caliing them on the phone and all this...well when he gave me the rign and i got it all striaghtened out which i though ..my freind calls me to say...there is profile online with fake picture and all the weird things he does...he even made fake one to talk to me..now hes extrmely mad and saying im accusing him, hes ignorning me again...says we not getting house...never good time to call....and making me feel like shit....while i was trying be happy and again treat him right....sometime three or four weeks pass before he comes to stay all night...it might be other online women involved but i live 1 minute from his job and work ....and he doesnt go no where so i never see nothing strange there no matter how much i check......i just want to know has anyone else experienced tings like this... it like they want the upmost respect and understanding but yet....they dont give it in return..i love this man with all my heat and its so hard to let go..i examine my heart and mind constantly trying fiquire out why he , doesnt care how i feel nor ever try see my side... i mean there alot good thing about him...hes a home body..he never go out of the country ....i could just write a book....people have guessed he might be marrie but what wife would wait 10 years for a visit to his country....and why when i spy no one there or i cant catch him...please give me some feed back!

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