You're right!

Submitted by Jasmine (France), Aug 21, 2009 at 09:58

Thanks again for your advice!

I had to get him out of my system so went to see him again, what a mistake! You think, maybe after a couple of months of absence they might have changed or something, but no it was worse. He made me feel so guilty of how his life has turned out that if I had of married him 8 months ago he wouldn't be in this situation now. He said the moment he needed me the most i let him down and i was horrible to him etc..When i answered back he threatened me with a knife, so i said, i will tell the police. He was furious and locked me in and said horrible things about me all the things that hurt you because he knew me so well and knew what strings to pull . He came out with every single detail of what I had done wrong since the begining of the relationship, and said iiwas possesive too much on his back etc.. and thats what made him disappear..I know I was but he had made me in to this kind of person like you said they transform you. I'm a very nice person everybody likes me, it was only him that thought I wasn't a good person, maybe you're trying to prove him wrong.. He didn't respect me and ended up hitting me, for the first time. He said I had to give him money for staying over a few nights, and if he didn't get the money he would find me etc.. Now i feel even worse than before, but at the same time I'm thinking i need to get a life as he just doesn't give a damn about anyone but himself. So this is a message to everyone they change and it only gets worse as time goes by. Avoid going back to them, they're not worth it!

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