My Muslim husband still has not introduced me to his family ... asking for advice.

Submitted by Colima (United States), Aug 21, 2009 at 11:41

I recently married my husband in his country of residence, and although we married in the same city as my spouse's parents live in, he did not invite them nor did he ever introduce me to them. He claims it was because he was "on the outs" with them at the time, but later I discovered that he still lives with his parents (except when he was in the U.S. for college and work). So at the time that we married, although we were living together at a resort, he was officially living with his parents. Now he keeps delaying my meeting his parents. Initially he said when we got our I-129/K3 visa approved I would fly back, meet his family, and we would come to the U.S. - however, during our last conversation, he said I would meet his family "next year". I wonder if he is using me for money or a green card, even though so far he has paid for everything. The closer we get to having his visa approved, the more my intuition screams that something isn't right here. Today he replied to an email saying I haven't met his family because he hasn't met mine - but my entire family and all of my friends know that we married - and if he weren't 10,000 miles away he would have met my family before we ever married. But he and I were staying in the same town as his family lives for 30 days, and we even got married, and I never met them. It hurts to end this now, but I know it would hurt more 2-3 years from now when he gets citizenship and leaves me. I mean, we had a great time together and get along well, but there are a few issues, such as my not meeting his family and some sexual issues, that have me worried. I mean, he is Indian working in the UAE, but in all three cultures, Indian, Arab, and American, marriage is a FAMILY CENTERED event.

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