Its not you ! Its him!

Submitted by ruth (France), Aug 22, 2009 at 17:24

Hi there!

I don't know if you still check the posts, but I HAVE BEEN checking for two weeks now, hopefully you will read this. I went out with an moroccan guy for 2 and half years on and off after his disappearing acts etc.. Even though we weren't married it was almost as if we were. He was very controlling, and had a lot of mood swings too, every thing was my fault. Just small things that you would never imagine would set him off and we would argue and shout at eachother.

Then there were times when he was kind of nice but mostly he was very moody. When he took me to a restaurant the odd time, but when he did he would look at the menu decided what he wanted and then before i could choose or if i had choosen, he would take my order to the waiter as if i couldn't order for myself. EVEN THE WAY HE SPOKE TO THE WAITER CHEESED me off! with no respect. Sometimes he thoght i was eyeing up the waiter, whatever. Then we would argue and he would regret having taken me out to dinner. He didn't like me to be authortive at all and hated me having my indepence. He also wanted me to change my phone and just have his number on my mobile.

When he went out he with his friends, he wanted me to stay at home and not see my friends. Often if i sighed because he was still in bed sleeping and never helping with any house chores. He would get up and shout until he completly drained me before going to work. IT WAS SO UPSETTING that sometimes I couldn't go in to work. He hardly ever made dinner, only in the begining once or twice to charm me and did the washing up too surprise! but afterwards nothing at all. I must say his moods got worse and always made out it was me for the slightest thing, that any normal person european, american,or australian would think was crazy!!! But i think its their culture thats the way they are sadly, perhaps they wouldn't be so moody with an morocan woman, who knows but its just weird. One minute ok the next.. afterwards i was afraid to say or ask him anything because of his reactions. Now we've split up and i'm still upset and feel guilty thinking maybe it was me?

Anyway just to let you know I think the mood swings mean that they're never happy no matter what you do for them! They're just big kids spoilt by their mothers! and us women mean nothing to them!

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