The decision is yours!

Submitted by Jasmine (France), Aug 24, 2009 at 07:40

Hello,

It has been over a year now, what did you decide to do in the end? Are you still with this guy?

I had a similar situation to yours, but it lasted almost 3 years. He would disappear when he felt like it, giving me all kinds of excuses, sometimes he had texts from girls but said they were only friends.. He made me very insecure because i loved him but i knew something wasn't right. Any way you can read my posts on august 2009. In the end we split up i was heart broken because I GAVE THE SIGNS THAT I WAS anxious about the future about marryying him and having kids.

I could have gone along like that forever with him but when it comes to the crunch , you know its not going to work, You know you want to have kids etc.. They are too different to us europeans, once they've got the ring on the finger, you're their proprety. They will change, i dont know if you saw the film "NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER" by SALLY FIELD?That was a true story and a very good example of what could have happened to you and to me and to all the women out there who get sucked in. If you have or had a child with him, he can also take the child back to his country to bring it up the muslim way how do you know and you won't have any say in the matter. You will probably have to go with him too.

The other thing is when you're at home looking after the baby, he will be out gallaphanting around with other women. The reason the sex is so good with these men, is because they are constantly sleeping around left, right and centre, So no wonder they have such good experience. Thats how they see things it means nothing to them..They try to act all innocent and cry and so on , its all puppy dog crap! Thats part of the manipulation. So please leave its hard to begin with but it gets easier and just think you don't want to be forty in the same situation, that s what made me click!

Anyway I REALLY HOPE YOU DIDN't MARRY AND HAVE KIDS WITH THIS GUY!

Let me know what happened , we're here for you.xx

all the best

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