ha, ha, Yes, I am a real person living on the East coast w/ my Muslim Hubby...

Submitted by FARRAH IS REAL! (United States), Aug 27, 2009 at 21:26

Dear ICBtCOH,

I couldn't believe it when I saw my name in your post, I had to laugh but I am so serious and sincere...that's why I try to share my story, my truth, my heartfelt advice to ANYONE who would listen. I used to date Indian men only, I met so many on Shaadi.com then when breaking up w/about 3 of them, they would yell at me, "No one would EVER marry you!!" Forget about how painful it was to hear that but being me, I set to prove them wrong!! In a nutshell, this is what they said: that those cultures ONLY want marriage for green card, so they can return to their own country and marry the young bride the family has chosen. To have green card is like a half million dollars to these people. They think America is overflowing with $$$.

BUT there is a certain "type" they are looking for....older, divorced, widowed ladies, w home. They don't really want minority person because there is racism in their cultures too! Anyway, the next guy said 90% of these guys online are simply playing games with you. ESPECIALLY if they want to see you on webcam. They KNOW they have about !% chance of EVER getting to the west, so they play you for "things". So I thought okay, but maybe if I find a RELIGIOUS person, they will surely love me for me...that is how I fell into Muslim man...I also decided no more "country-country" dating...I"ll find a good Muslim man HERE in my town !! No takers...I thought that was strange??? When one minute every foriegn man, professed his luv for me after seeing my picture in North Africa, but NONE here??

Then my ex-friend said: "Oh no, if they are ALREADY in America, WHY would they want some old woman??!!" (of course I'm not old) but remember, it is NORMAL for 35++year old man to marry girl of 20+ years in their culture. Marrying older woman IS NOT something to be proud of there.!!! Not having children IS NOT okay there. I remember my husband was like: Don't tell anyone we are getting married. I have still not met ONE of his friends that CONSTANTLY call his cell phone

! This week he went to someones wedding without me!! I asked my friend what does this mean?? He said you know what, I have noticed that men who marry American women, NEVER bring their wives to the Masjid (he only came ONCE with me), but after the 2 year mark and their remarriage, they bring their second wife, from their country, ALWAYS. I personally have to WAKE UP!! I don't care if nobody likes me on this blog. I don't care if you don't BELIEVE how cruel these men can be. But, why would I lie?? Why would I come on a site and say:' Help me, I think my husband married me for a green card??" You think that's fun?? You think I'd "make that up??"

I know how it feels to be soooo lonely, it was UNBEARABLE!! but when I lie about how I met my husband, or when I add on an extra year or two with how long we've been married...often when people learn that he is foriegn born, there next question is O...how LONG have you been together, I KNOW they are thinking "green card marriage"... I just don't want anyone to be bamboozled. I just don't....And I'm going to keep offering my opinion til the pain goes away...So yea, I'm for real.

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