whats a girl to do??

Submitted by confused (United Kingdom), Aug 28, 2009 at 09:54

i have been reading the comments on here so decided to show my story and hopefully get some advice. I met an egyptian man earlier this year when on holiday. We went out most nights and got to know each other. Nothing happened just talking and enjoying each others company. When i returned home to the UK i missed him very much and we text and speak nearly everyday. He has never asked me for anything and he knows i have nothing to give anyways.He took holiday and went back to Cairo to see his family. He told his family he had met me and about me and my life. They accepted this at first and talked about marriage to him. When he returned back to work his family changed and told him that he could not marry me because I was not muslim unless i was willing to convert. I said it was a massive step for me and wanted to return to egypt first to see him again to make sure the way I felt was real and not just a holiday romance. He has told me he loves me and my family and wants to be with me.

The next thing that happened was that his family have found him an egyptian wife who he will marry after Ramadan. he told his family that he did not want that and wanted to try and build a realtionship with me. They said that if he did that he was not to return home and never speak to them again. He cried everytime on the phone to me, very upset and was worried that I thought bad of him because his family wanted him to marry egyptian girl and he loved me and did not want this. He has spoken to his family everyday about the situation. he says he does not want to marry her but has to for his family and that its very hard because of the difference in our cultures which i truly respect. he will marry now after Ramadan.

He now wants to pay for me to go back in October to see him and he says he really wants to see me and loves me and is marrying for family. he has also talked about me being his 2nd wife??????

i do know that they can marry more than once but I do not want to be the 2nd wife but love him dearly and do really want to go back to see him. im very confused and after reading on here, even more so now! I do believe what he says but how can I be the 2nd wife? I just dont know what to think anymore!

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