to Farrah, marriage to Muslim

Submitted by lisa (United States), Aug 29, 2009 at 00:47

Farrah...You are not correct on some things you write.... You say after the alien husband and spouse are married two years and after the alien husband has the green card they bring their second wife? Ok How can this be when first off, for example in Morocco...family law has changed...only when the first wife allows and signs for him to have second wife (and if you also agree to remain the wife and not divorce him) will this happen (in person in magistrates family law office in city/country they reside in)...

this does not mean him writing or having a friend to write or someone imposing as wife cause you must show picture id and also when a marriage takes place now you must furnish a translator of your language before they will notorize and authorize your marriage or a second marriage.....and you say you are already living in East Coast which is USA correct? Farrah, USA does not allow Polygomy and also without divorcing the first wife, she could not get a visa to enter the US or another country becoming the second wife. Immigration checks to make sure they have no other wifes on record....

also, I talked to a man living as a permanent resident here in the US from country of Iran...it took him 15 years to get his brother here to live...its not as easy as one thinks. Farrah you spoke of Indian men...I had an on-line friend I spoke to which was 27 and he was just a friend who I liked talking to about cultures. In India they do arrange marriages. He spoke of his brother marrying someone arranged and his marriage would be arranged against the fact he was in love with another Indian girl...his parents arranged these marriages and you are taught to abide by their wishes due to fact they raised you and give them money all their lives and they are ok with this out of respect for the parents....

The Iran man here in USA, he chose to go back and marry a woman his mother chose for him but he said he was ok with this cause he got the final say. She is living here now...nice friendly lady. Also the Iranian brother told me Farrah, as far as him being Muslim...he believes in one God and he does not attend Mosque or Church here and his statement was we all know right from wrong...we live by this...you don't have to have a place of worship to tell us this. So my point is, just because they are Muslim...doesn't mean they live strickly by Quran. He doesn't go to Mosque or church but believes in God I think some take the fact they are Muslim a little too far and they are NOT all the SAME. Farrah, if you have ever went to his country, you would also have seen local Moroccan drunks in the shady bars...drinking is forbidden right, but the police allows bars knowing some will drink. They are all individuals they chose their own lives and if they want to live it right and the ones who want a clean good life have good intentions with the ladies they meet. Something to think about....they are all Muslim but not all Muslims live a good clean sober faithful life. My husband took me in one of the bars to compare to clubs here in USA....and the women inside are considered 'dirty" women and believe me, the good men do not want women who are out clubbing and drinking and carrying on with other men and men who could also be married and they know these women are doing this for "money"

Webcams....Farrah when one tries to have a relationship two countries apart we only have webcam and e-mails and phone for contact. How you think we meet in the first place...how do you meet anyone on-line? First off, you better make sure you see them on webcam because it may not be who they send you a picture of on the other side or their own profile picture...Trust me I had this to happen and the guy was trying to FLY me at his expense to Florida...he was on tagged.com living in US in Florida...and I think he was out to harm women posing as a blonde American athletic bulid man who was showing picture claiming it was him...he was stupid enough to show himself on cam and he looked latina and very overweight and looked scary cause I exposed him to all his frnds...he jerked off in front of the cam as I exposed him to others to warn his lady frnds which was very thankful I did so....Webcams Farrah does not have to mean bad things. Its a good way to communicate on-line when you are so far apart and your heart aches to be with your spouse or Fiance. I know I love talking to my husband on the phone and I have to hear his voice sometimes...but I depend on my webcam to see him and know he is home every night safe and sound and it eases my mind to know he is staying good and if one of us are to be late for our set time, we call one another out of respect for the other. and if one calls the other we always answer and he never fails to tell me he loves me and gives me a phone kiss..They are not ashame who stands there and even if i call him unannounced..but he tells me I can call at anytime cause lot of times I don't want to interupt his activities to chit-chat, but he says no bay you are my wife, call me....

Farrah, I know you are in a bad relationship and I feel sorry for you that your husband has used you. I wish you could have saw the signs he gave you 9red Flags).... first he asked you NOT TO TELL OTHERS YOU ARE MARRIED....this should have been an eye-opener he was hiding something or ashamed of you for whatever reasons...second, why would he not show you off to his friends and family if he loved you? I have met so many friends and relatives just on two visits...he loved pulling over and calling ones to car to introduce me, most thought I was French by the way...I heard so much Bon Jour,lol...He usually never corrected them except for ones we had coffee with which was his closest friends or neighbors....This should have been an eye-opener to you....I feel while you are staying with this man (your husband), he is allowed to walk all over you and you are letting him.so many women do this...its emotional abuse..Farrah, your love for him is not worth your happiness...

Just leave him and never look back...gain your freedom and happiness and never let a man do this to you again....SPEAK up Farrah and Be HEARD. You have a voice here on this blog, giving advice...why can't you get in control of your life and situation at home?

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