Answers for Confused

Submitted by Isis (Australia), Aug 29, 2009 at 09:13

Unfortunately your man's family will have a very strong influence over his choice of wife and usually the threat of banishment from the family will seal the man's fate. This exact same scenario is being acted out by an Egyptian man and an Australian woman at this very moment. The man's family heard that he was seeing a western woman and arranged a quick marriage to one of his cousins despite his protests and despite already having an Orfi marriage to the Australian woman. His family does not accept the marriage to the Western woman because she is not Muslim even though the marriage to the Egyptian woman is also an Orfi mariage. This is a deep ingrained culture with strong family ties which will never be broken. This culture can almost be suffocating to us in the West but this has been their way of life for hundreds of years and the way that Islam decrees that families should be.

To be a second wife the man usually must have permission from the first wife that he can take another wife. Do you really want to share this man with another woman?

What is the big rush for marriage? You need to understand the Egyptian culture, people and women in Islam before you make any decisions on your future with this man. As you are not Muslim it is obvious that you will not be accepted by his family and conversion to Islam is not to be taken lighlty.

Please do some serious research before you go any further in this relationship. Coming onto this site is the first step now take some more ...

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