For Confused

Submitted by Zella (United States), Aug 29, 2009 at 18:36

I am sorry that you hurt so badly but I think it's always important to remember that blood is much thicker than water. This man has made the choice that his family comes first, always has and always will. No, you don't want to be a second wife. In the future you will come to understand that you didn't want to be the first wife either. These men do not have the same orientation as westerners do and they don't marry for love. They marry to have children. "Love" and "respect" are not important in some cultures as in the western cultures. Yes, you hurt but this too will pass and you will realize that you are truly blessed.

Take care of yourself and always put your needs first. Good Luck.

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