Ummm

Submitted by Stephanie (United States), Aug 30, 2009 at 04:22

Well I don't even know what to say. Once I read that these men would always try to contact later to keep their options open. The one I knew contacted me last weekand as much as I wish his motives were genuine I :( I know, I know. He tried to explain everything in some decent way...he also acted loving. I remembered this site and all the past that happened and I just know I can't deal with any of it anymore.

Even if anything he said is true he lost my trust. First of all I'd never give him a cent...second...the only reason I finally answered my phone was because he wouldn't stop calling, and yeah I do miss him but I can't help that. Third, he married some women for a greencard because I wouldn't, couldn't, yet... and he swears he never had sex with her, that he never lived with her or anything and that it was strictly for immigration, a contract. Still this women is psycho and I know I can't deal with her lol. I made it clear I couldn't respect any man that kept another woman around for any other reason and supposedly he loved me. I can understand friendships, don't get me wrong. This wasn't a friendship. This woman has been mean to me from the beginning even when she knew we were together. Also she'd wrote him and told him if we didn't marry soon enough she would give him a fiance visa or marry him as a friend for the greencard. He showed me what she wrote at the time.

Well am so sick of it all. All the mistreatment has really opened my eyes. Women on this site can you imagine ever being not the main person in your man's life? This is to the women thinking about becoming wife #2 or 3...God really imagine. I don't think even Muslim women born in this culture enjoy it let alone us. They accept it because they would be old divorced hags and no one would want them. We have choices so why would we choose this when we can most definitely have a man to ourself easily? Women it's just not worth all the confusion to not know what is real and what is fake. If these men really love then it would be so clear and we all know this. You just wouldn't have any doubt. The only reason you are doubting is because your conscience is telling you something isn't right and most of the time it is so clear we just choose to ignore the signs.

I did it too and I kept making excuses for this man's behavior (stress...being in a new place,,,being scared..but there are no good reasons for a man to mistreat you. He was so mean to me at times and I knew clearly how I was raised. A good man would love you as he loves himself. The man I knew would say he had to think about himself all the time. I don't think these men would ever know how to love a woman as they love their own body and if you upset them you will always fear they will run to another woman because he is too prideful, lazy to take the time to work on the relationship, or not psychologically just not able to give. Who wants to live like that? Always living in fear. How can it be worth it? Anyway, I think the one I know reads this site so heres to you and thanks for ruining everything:) I wish you well but enough is enough.

Sorry people, I just had to vent.

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