I'm so glad and happy for you!

Submitted by JASMINE (France), Aug 31, 2009 at 19:41

Hello again,

Thank you very much for your reply. I'mso thrilled for you that you have made the right decision on leaving this guy and going back to Italy to make a new life and a fresh start. You deserve it ! to have a life near you'r family who loves you and eventually you will meet a very nice man and have lovely children! i'm sure.!

My guy was from MAROCCO, Casablanca, but seriouly my story is almost exactly the same as yours even the age difference was the same except that mine became a clandestine I was very sressed and afraid of what might happen to me if i lodged him but did anyway. The police were actually looking for him but i over reacted sometimes and wasn't very supportive to his mental state of mind. I kept on thinking of the times he was mean to me not answering his phone only available when he needed something etc..

Even last christmas, he disappeared and didn't wish me a happy xmas, I KNOW ITS NOT THEIR CULTURE TO CELEBRATE BUT ALL THE SAME. So i had to spent xmas with some friends at the last minute and it ruined my day thinking why did he do that? The day before the new year he said he was going to Amsterdamwith his friends and didn't invite me , so again a new year ruined and thinking whats he up too especially at amsterdam all the easy girls! Any way in the new year, it got worse as you read from my postings he became clandestin..Its now august and i'm still not not over all this and now hes chatting on line with girlstrying to find a solution it seems. I became friends with him on this site as an anoymous person and last night he started chating with me on there.. i was sick to see things he wrote thinking i was some girl that was interested in him. As you know all the charming words etc and then he started to explain his life to me a complete stranger saying everything that happened for the last 5years etc and how now hes a clandestin I was trying to write back in a different way in case he recognised me. lol Then he said that he lost everything his job studies and his girlfriend being me lol!!

I said oh what happened with your gf he said when she found out that i had to leave the country she didn't want me to live with her anymore and that i didn't give him the support he needed . I JUST SAID" IT MUST HAVE BEEN HARD for her aswell " and he said yes i know i understand her and that it wasn't easy.. I was pleased when he said that,, Then he said but i will have to leave this country anyway soon and it would be worses in a way to stay together! AND THAT SHE UNDERSTOOD TOO LATE andt thats life he said i'm free now and it wasn't possible i said "anything is possible if you love someone" he said like romeo and juliette! THEN bruskly he said very quickly i have to go now, we can chat later maybe.. I don't know if he suspected it was me the way he cut off ? i looked and he wasstill on line. I stayed on a while, he was obviously talking to some other girls!

I know its not good what i did, but i thought after all the mind games he played with me why not have a bit of fun for a change:)

Me too i would think the same when we were out every girl he looked at made you think ishe going to sleep with her, You can read my latest post on that. I don't know it just wasn't a healthy relationship and way to live ! Even at work he took girls names and numbers for the facebook but always said its good to have contacts for finding work..whatever!

You're making the right decision and you don't want to be 40 /45 with this guy with all your doubts about the relationship..It probably is easier to not see him as much and gradually not see him at all. i REALLY ADMIRE YOU FOR TAKING ACTION AND TAKING CONTROL OF YOU LIFE! ITS NEVER TOO LATE! You must feel so much more focused on your future now. Things will fall in to place when you get back. Don't let him charm you again to stay because i'm sure he will when its coming to the day you're leaving! Maybe someone in your family could come over and join you untill you go back to Italy ? That would be easier and he will less likely to manipulate you in to staying!

You must be excited about the new and better life thats waiting for you and you are moving foward and the fact that you've bought your ticket is another step ahead.............

Lifes to short to get hung up on something, we are not destined to..its just not meant to be thats all!

Anyway I HAVE MORE STORIES TO SHARE WITH YOU and will keep you posted... AND ESPECIALLY YOU! IM LOOKING FOWARD TO YOUR UPDATES TOO!

Bye for now ! Best of luck ! Keep STRONG!

xxxxoooo

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