all the bad stories about Turkish men

Submitted by elina (United States), Aug 31, 2009 at 21:35

so i went to Turkey and met a guy on the beach. we hang out that night and later exchanged e-mail addresses. 3 weeks later when i returned home i e-mailed him and sent him a picture i had promised. since that time he has texted and called me almost everyday (about 2 months) and started saying that he loved me about 2 weeks after he started texting me.

i am a very skeptical and untrusting person in the first place so i would never say it back to him and i would always ask how we could possibly love me when we barely knew each other. anyways he is knows that i plan on going back to Turkey in October to get a CETL degree and keeps beging me to come to visit him. i guess i am just torn by all the things i have read about on these types of websites. i don't know whether to trust him.

i know i won't ever marry him because of the religious differences and i'm not ready to get married but i wouldn't mind dating him for a long time. there are a few things that bother me about him 1. he's always asking me to visit him ( i told him no unless he would visit me in Istanbul while i'm in school) i hate that i'm expected to put all the effort into him seeing me. 2. he dissapears for a few days at a time in which i don't receive any texts or calls and then has some excuse for it. they sound kind of shady. 3. he already talks about me becoming his wife and having kids together (we have only known each other since may) i guess that about wraps it up. just would really like to hear other people's thoughts on the subject. like i said i can't tell if i'm just being paranoid and untrusting or whether it is the right instinct.
thanks

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