For Elina re Turkish men

Submitted by Allieh (United Kingdom), Sep 3, 2009 at 14:17

Hi Elina
I would say your gut instinct is correct and please believe what you read in your research and run run run in the opposite direction! I was fooled by a Turkish man who works in a resort (Marmaris) and I'm now expecting his baby. He could care less and is still sleeping with every woman tourist he can find, asking them for money and seeing many women at once.... and he is also married. His wife and he are estranged because he beat her and she fled back to Russia with their small daughter. He also has beat every woman he has been with for any length of time, although I had a lucky escape there, he only threatened to hit me!

I know all this NOW but wished I'd known it 5 months ago. I did all my research, asked him countless questions and he even admitted to having been a bit of a rogue in the past, but said he wanted to turn his life around now and get married and settle down. I had his email and facebook passwords and he put on Facebook and msn that he was in a relationship with me. I took things slowly at first and was always cautious, and truly I should've listened to my GUT as it's rarely wrong, but I went out to Turkey and worked along side him and got caught up in it all.

It all sounds so ridiculous now, but he was very convincing and I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He never asked me for money and he paid for things for me, he also pretended initially to be over the moon about the baby, but I think he was playing the long game with me. He hoped to get a divorce soon and be free to marry me and get his meal ticket to the UK, I'm quite sure of it. He was conning other women online and who stayed at the hotel we worked at and I'm quite sure he was going to use their money to keep me.

5 months later I am no longer with him and have posted details of him on every website and love rat site I can find as I am still getting messages on Facebook from his latest conquests who want to know who I am or if I am still with him as they don't trust him! The stories they tell me are just awful. Many holidaymakers who are still friends with him have contacted me on Facebook as they cannot believe how awful he truly is. Am english man who he has been friends with for nearly 10 years is now thoroughly disgusted with him and won't be keeping in touch with him. These men are very good actors and can con even the most intelligent people. Please please don't think that this man will be any different from the rest, the signs so far are not looking good. Good luck, Allie.

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